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Old 08-27-2013, 11:21 PM
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what happens if you ask the cops to do a "welfare-check" on a 40-yr-old neighbor?

Pre-emptive disclaimer: I am at least a week or two away from becoming "overly concerned", so I don't want this to sound like I'm fixing to hit "Submit New Thread", and then immediately call the cops.

My scenario: typical neighborhood out in the 'burbs, early 40's myself, live in the house next door to a really good-looking single girl, who I haven't seen in almost a week. She and I barely know each other (by first name only), and usually only share small-talk whenever we're both outside at the same time.

We've never exchanged numbers, even in a neighborly way (i.e. "hey, if I'm at work, and you see that my dog got out, please give me a call"). She's never seen the inside of my house, nor have I seen hers.

Other than the fact that we live next door to each other (and neither of us have kids), we don't know anything about the other one. I have no idea if she has family living in town, or not.

All the signs point to her being on vacation, but with each passing day, something "just doesn't feel right". Her porch light has stayed on constantly for at least a week now, which doesn't seem typical.

Newspapers piling up in her driveway since last week; our "trash day" is Friday, and her bin just sat around at the edge of her curb from Thursday night until Tuesday afternoon, when one of the other neighbors must have rolled it up to the base of the garage door (we're all front-entry garages here).

As mentioned, I'm sure the most likely scenario is that she's on vacation, and some irresponsible neighbor/friend is supposed to be tending to her house to make it look "lived in", and will probably come pick up all the newspapers (and roll the trash-bin into the garage), the day before she comes back in town.

So at this point I'm minding my own business, gonna let the next several days go by, and assume this will all "come together" in the end.

So getting into the "hypothetical", if this continues for another week or two, then what?

I suppose my first option as the genuinely concerned neighbor would be to call the non-emergency police number, and just say "hey, you don't know me, she doesn't know me, maybe this is all nothing, but here's the deal...." (and then point them to the first dozen paragraphs of this thread).

If I ask them to do a "welfare-check", then what happens? Do they ring the doorbell, and if they don't receive an answer, just start battering down the door?

What happens if they don't find anything - do they "open an investigation", or just file the police report to account for their time that morning, then forget about it? Who pays for the damages - them? her? me, for making the call in the first place?

Or, God-forbid they find her in there, passed away due to suspicious circumstances - then I assume I would become "Prime Suspect # 1", correct? Not to sound like a complete ass, but that's not something I'd really want to "get involved" with - the remote possibility of "come down to the station, take a polygraph test, blah blah blah".

Just trying to figure out what would be the right thing to do, if this continues for another week or two. And perhaps more interestingly, just read responses to the basic hypothetical "what do cops do, during a welfare-check?".
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Old 08-27-2013, 11:32 PM
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Old 08-27-2013, 11:37 PM
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Just to clarify, when I said "single", all I know is that she's not married - I have no clue if she's seeing anyone or not.
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Old 08-27-2013, 11:40 PM
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First, be a neighbor.

If the trash can is left out a day after trash pickup, move it in for her.

If the newspapers are piling up a day or two, pick them up. Keeping your neighbor's house up in in your interest.

Check her mailbox. If it is filling up, empty it. If not, then she probably has had her mail stopped. Knock on her door every evening. If she is home, tell her about the trash cans and newspapers, and give her her mail. Ask her to let you know if she is going to be away in the future so that you can keep an eye out. If she doesn't appreciate it (and I can't imagine why she would), she will let you know.

Where I am from, this is known as being neighborly. Do it. If it persists for over a week, let the authorities know. If you are honest, it won't be a problem. If you try to hide things, whether it is you that calls or someone else, they will wonder why you didn't get involved.
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Old 08-27-2013, 11:46 PM
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Wow - already working on your alibi?

I've been curious too as to how these welfare checks are handled. I think a week is too soon to be worried about a young single woman. I don't know how long I'd wait. It's not like there is much to be gained - and I'd probably be overly concerned that they would find out I was worried after not seeing them for that short a period of time.

Could try and look at property records if she owns the place and then stalk her on Facebook. If it is a rental - then call the landlord. Do you have an HOA? Some of them have records where you basically give emergency contact info (just for cases like this - well not exactly - but close enough).

I'm pretty sure your chances of being falsely accused of murder are pretty small. It makes me wonder if this ever happens - someone is overly concerned about it and then investigates - tries to bury a body or something so that they don't get falsely accused.
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Old 08-28-2013, 12:11 AM
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My mom had that done to me once because she couldn't get ahold of me for a few days because I was minding my own damn business. They came banging on my door (police are incapable of knocking) and then when I didn't answer because I don't answer people banging on my door when I'm not expecting anyone, they came around to my sliding door which had a broken lock, so they came in that way (I told them to get the hell out, man I was pissed, seriously my mom had NO reason to worry). If not for that, I don't think they would have come in. I don't see how they could legally break in when there's no real evidence of anything wrong, but I could be wrong about that. I think if you call, they'll just knock, look in windows and around the yard and see if they see anything suspicious, and check for unlocked doors and windows, and then just leave if they don't see anything.

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Old 08-28-2013, 12:20 AM
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Dude you seriously do that too much
Sorry. But not lately though!
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Old 08-28-2013, 01:20 AM
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Sorry. But not lately though!
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Old 08-28-2013, 01:50 AM
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Check her mailbox. If it is filling up, empty it.

Uh, I'd highly recomend you NOT empty someone elses mailbox.
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:27 AM
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something "just doesn't feel right".
Sooo...... let's examine the evidence:
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Her porch light has stayed on constantly for at least a week now, which doesn't seem typical.
Well, duh...you're right. It's not typical---- for somebody who is home.
But for somebody who left for a vacation and accidently left the porch light on, what the hell do you expect? It's not only "typical"--it's a fricking law of physics. The light's gonna stay on for----gasp!----the entire time she's gone.
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Newspapers piling up in her driveway since last week; ... her bin just sat around at the edge of her curb from Thursday night until Tuesday afternoon, when one of the other neighbors must have rolled it up.
Oh my god!!! Somebody left their bin out!!!! and then somebody else decided to be a good neighbor!!!!!!!!

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I'm sure the most likely scenario is that she's on vacation, and some irresponsible neighbor/friend is supposed to be tending to her house, and will probably come pick up all the newspapers (and roll the trash-bin into the garage), the day before she comes back in town.
Well, nothing is 100% for sure, but this seems pretty close. Your evidence for anything else is pretty thin.
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So at this point I'm minding my own business
Good idea.

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Old 08-28-2013, 03:44 AM
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HAHAHA Cannot. Stop. Laughing.

Perhaps you should also chart how often Ambi posts "nm" to compare to the hits that link got, so we can see if it helps?
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:52 AM
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Welfare checks are pretty routine calls. You can just call the nonemergency number of your local cop shop and briefly explain your concerns. They'll try calling and/or stopping by, and they might even have family contact information if it comes down to that. If something did happen to her inside her house, you'd hardly be Suspect #1: that position would be reserved for her current or ex-boyfriend.

When she gets back from vacation, you could mention that you were a little concerned and suggest that she arrange for newspaper pickup, etc., on future occasions. I have nothing to contribute to your potential alibi .

Stay out of her mailbox, though. That's not just illegal; it's also downright creepy.
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Old 08-28-2013, 04:13 AM
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I know this is going to sound like a totally radical idea but....have you tried knocking on her door to see what happens? Maybe she is on vacation, or maybe she's curled up with her 23rd pint of Ben and Jerry's because she just broke up with her boyfriend, or maybe she had a stroke and died. Who the heck knows? But there's at least one step before calling for a wellness check, and that's being neighborly and checking yourself. You don't have to break in (please don't break in) but at least see if you can verify that she's not just working nights now so you're not seeing her during the day.

As for what happens when you call for a wellness check, it really varies very much. Depends on the person doing the check, the person missing, their age and known medical conditions and how realistic concerns are. Generally speaking, police won't break and enter unless there's a smell or a body visible from a window, but they will knock, and will perhaps walk around the house to find an open door.

Please don't take her mail without prior arrangements. The mail carrier can stop delivering if the box fills up and hold her mail at the post office. Not your call to make.

But being worried that you'll be suspect #1 in the event she's been murdered...that's crazyland talk. Stop it. Life isn't an episode of Perry Mason.
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Old 08-28-2013, 05:39 AM
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I agree with the suggestion to pick up her newspapers. It's possible that she was called away very quickly for a family emergency and didn't have time to make mail and newspaper arrangements.

Do you have a FB account? You might try searching her name on FB and seeing if she has an account. If she does, you can send her a friend request. That will give you a dialogue box where you can type a message that she will see when she gets the friend request. I'd say, "Hey, I'm your neighbor to the left, and noticed your newspapers and mail piling up. Hope everything is OK. Let me know if you need any help. Happy to help."

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Old 08-28-2013, 06:46 AM
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Have you tried knocking on her door? I'm the least neighborly person in the world, but I think I would probably try that before calling the police...
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Old 08-28-2013, 07:22 AM
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Uh, I'd highly recomend you NOT empty someone elses mailbox.
Well, around here, NOT emptying a neighbor's mailbox when it was obvious that it was filling and that the neighbor was not attending to it would be considered a sign of animosity towards said neighbor and towards the neighborhood in general. Around here, folks care about one another; that's what makes us different than most places.

Now, you have to mix in some common sense. If the mailbox in a locked, gang mailbox that is common in more populated areas, don't try to pick the lock. If it is a curbside/porch mounted box and there are just a few letters in it, leave them be. But, if the box is stuffed full so that you can tell by walking by, I can't imagine anyone would have a problem with a neighbor taking care of things. If the said neighbor complained, well, that's good news since it means she is OK.

The OP doesn't say what part of the country (I assume US) they are, but in most areas of the country I have visited (which is most of it), people appreciate their neighbors looking out for them when they are away, which includes picking up the mail, if necessary.
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Old 08-28-2013, 07:55 AM
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Now, you have to mix in some common sense. If the mailbox in a locked, gang mailbox that is common in more populated areas, don't try to pick the lock. If it is a curbside/porch mounted box and there are just a few letters in it, leave them be. But, if the box is stuffed full so that you can tell by walking by, I can't imagine anyone would have a problem with a neighbor taking care of things. If the said neighbor complained, well, that's good news since it means she is OK.
OP didn't mention seeing any mail, and did mention that he lives in the burbs; the most likely scenario here is that it's a curbside box, in which case there is no way you are going to see it "obviously overstuffed," because the door of the mailbox will be closed, and if the mail piles up to the point that the mailman can't get the door closed, he will start holding the mail and leave a note for the resident to come pick it up at the post office. Source: My husband is a mail carrier. I agree with everyone else that picking up someone else's mail and keeping it at your house is inappropriate and borderline creepy. Maybe in your neighborhood it works, but your neighborhood is not typical.

Newspapers and garbage can, no problem.

And yeah, I'll agree that going over and knocking on her door seems like an obvious first step here.

If it is a vacation, then when she gets back, the next time you see her you might want to just say that you noticed it seemed she was gone for a while, and next time you'd be happy to pick up her newspapers and stuff for her if she wants.

Oh, and it just occurred to me, it might be worthwhile to just peek in the mailbox really quick (please don't remove anything) - if there's no mail at all in there, that's an excellent sign that she called the post office to have her mail stopped for the week.
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Old 08-28-2013, 07:59 AM
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Well, around here, NOT emptying a neighbor's mailbox when it was obvious that it was filling and that the neighbor was not attending to it would be considered a sign of animosity towards said neighbor and towards the neighborhood in general. Around here, folks care about one another; that's what makes us different than most places.

Now, you have to mix in some common sense. If the mailbox in a locked, gang mailbox that is common in more populated areas, don't try to pick the lock. If it is a curbside/porch mounted box and there are just a few letters in it, leave them be. But, if the box is stuffed full so that you can tell by walking by, I can't imagine anyone would have a problem with a neighbor taking care of things. If the said neighbor complained, well, that's good news since it means she is OK.

The OP doesn't say what part of the country (I assume US) they are, but in most areas of the country I have visited (which is most of it), people appreciate their neighbors looking out for them when they are away, which includes picking up the mail, if necessary.
Pretty sure it's illegal in most of the US to go futzing around with someone else's mailbox without permission. Regardless, it would seriously piss me off if one of my neighbors went and got my mail without me asking. So yeah, someone does have a problem with a neighbor taking care of it, and would not appreciate my neighbors doing a damn thing for me while I'm away. If I didn't take care of it post-going-away, it's fine without anyone else deciding what's best for my yard/mailbox/newspapers.

I don't think I'd do too well in your neighborhood; one of the things I like most about my current neighborhood is that there aren't a lot of neighbors, and we all mind our own business.

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Old 08-28-2013, 08:02 AM
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If you empty her mailbox, where are you going to put the mail? Keep it? That's illegal. Put it on her porch? What does a pile of mail on a porch mean to the neighborhood? Knock on her door to give her the mail? If you did that in the first place, nothing else matters.
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Old 08-28-2013, 08:08 AM
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Personally I'd be pissed if someone took it upon themselves to gather up my mail. That's the mail carrier's job, and my pet-sitter's if I specifically aske her to.

FWIW, I had to leave with virtually no notice when my Mom died. My parents were overseas and got the 'flu, Mom died and Dad nearly did. My sister and I were away for a month while Dad recuperated in the hospital, and we left our houses 24 hrs after getting my cousin's call. We are both married so there was someone home to keep the house going, but if I'd lived alone I would have packed a bag and left. Trash and newspapers and mail were the last thing I was thinking about.

Have you checked with any other neighbors? Maybe she's friendlier with one of them and they know something.

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Old 08-28-2013, 08:38 AM
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Chiming in to say "do NOT mess with her mail". That's a federal offense in the US. The only time I've messed with someone else's mail is when it was misdelivered, and then I just stuck in the mailbox and went on my merry way. I would be quite angry if someone decided to take it upon themselves to empty my mailbox.

That being said, I agree with the rest of the thread that if you're really worried, knock on her door. The cops won't do much for a welfare check beyond look in the windows - although if she died elsewhere (like in a car wreck) they might tell you that. (Probably not, but maybe)

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Old 08-28-2013, 09:36 AM
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Around here, folks care about one another; that's what makes us different than most places.
Where do you live? Is Rod Serling the mayor?
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Old 08-28-2013, 10:37 AM
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Old 08-28-2013, 02:57 PM
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I'm simply amazed that somebody out there still subscribes to a newspaper.
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:23 PM
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People really go through each other's mailboxes? Nosy nellies...probably read all the return addresses, too, and find who owes what where, etc.

I also would suggest knocking on the door.
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:28 PM
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I'm simply amazed that somebody out there still subscribes to a newspaper.
Assumes facts not in evidence. I can't get them to stop leaving papers at my front door. I've never subscribed to a single one.
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Old 08-28-2013, 03:41 PM
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Assumes facts not in evidence. I can't get them to stop leaving papers at my front door. I've never subscribed to a single one.
They do this at my place ....every few months they leave a copy of the Times Union on my front step. It literally goes from the ground to my trash can, I never even take it out of the plastic. Calling them to make them stop just gets you a hard sell.

I will NEVER EVER buy a newspaper subscription.

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Old 08-28-2013, 04:14 PM
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They do this at my place ....every few months they leave a copy of the Times Union on my front step. It literally goes from the ground to my trash can, I never even take it out of the plastic. Calling them to make them stop just gets you a hard sell.

I will NEVER EVER buy a newspaper subscription.
Exactly. Only for us it's two or three dailies. I think one must be ads, but the other is The Chicago Tribune, a real newspaper. I dunno, maybe the previous tenant subscribed, but we've been living here for three years now...

The second week we were here, we left a large cardboard box in front of the three mailslots at the front door, on the inside. Now we sort our mail standing there, and junk goes right in the big box, and when the big box is full, someone carries it to the recycling bin and dumps it. The neighbors use it, too. Every so often when my daughter wants to paint or work with clay, she goes downstairs and fetches a newspaper out of the discard box to drape the table with. Otherwise, the stuff doesn't even make it upstairs. Best system ever.
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Old 08-28-2013, 04:15 PM
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I'm simply amazed that somebody out there still subscribes to a newspaper.
Hey! I only stopped maybe three months ago, and part of the decision not to renew was the whole Sun Times photographer fiasco, otherwise, I would probably still be getting a paper.

And, yeah, don't touch my mail. Around here, we arrange for neighbors to do that, if we need that help, but would never dream of just taking somebody's mail without a previous arrangement. That's just bizarre.
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Old 08-28-2013, 04:43 PM
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I go out of town for months at a time and would never tell my neighbors. Sometimes one will offer to pick up the newspaper ads that are flung into every yard, but they seldom follow through. Spreading the word that you're not going to be home seems like asking for trouble, and nosing around someone's property or calling the police is not appropriate, especially when you don't even know the person.
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Old 08-28-2013, 05:14 PM
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I know my neighbors for about 2 houses each way, and those across the street. When we or they go on vacation, we tell each other. Our standard notification is "shoot anyone you see in the house!" With one exception, we've all been here 20+ years, so we have a handle on what's normal and expected.

While she's probably on vacation or been called away for a family emergency or started traveling for her job, I'd have the police check things out. Women do go missing all too frequently, and if it were my sister or whatever, I'd like someone looking for her sooner rather than later.

Less likely, but quite possible is she is there and dead. My biggest fear when I'm here all alone isn't burglars or tornadoes or gas leaks, it's choking. I can't tell you how pissed off I'll be when, after all the skydiving, shootouts, rafting, and adventuresome shit I've done for 50 years ends with me choking on a fucking roast beef sandwich while watching how they make ropes on Modern Marvels.

People do fall, choke, or have medical issues, and die without anyone knowing for a while.
I know it's kind of the worst case scenario for this situation, but it happens.

Please go knock - and smell - and call the cops if you don't get an answer.

When she gets back from Las Vegas next week, introduce yourself and make a friend.
Maybe she'll find your body someday!
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Old 08-28-2013, 05:44 PM
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If it has been under a week, I'd do nothing. Once it's over a week you can do your own "wellness check" and that's exactly what I would do. Keep in mind, trespassing is being somewhere you don't have a legal right to be and where you don't have permission to be. If I walk through my neighbor's yard right now, I'm not trespassing. If I walk up to his door or windows, I'm not trespassing*. I do not have a right to do those things, but he's never said I can't do those things or said I could do those things. The default is you can in fact walk up to someone's house or walk through their yard for brief periods and not be committing any crime.

If the homeowner comes out or later tells you they heard what you were doing, and asks you to never do it again, then you would be advised to not repeat the behavior.

So with all that in mind, after a week or so has passed just walk over and knock on the door. She may have secluded herself in her home or whatever, if she comes to the door, mystery solved. If she doesn't come to the door, check things out. You say the houses have garages, is there anyway to see into the garage without opening it? Windows or etc? If you can see into the garage and you see her car, that's a sign of concern, because unless she had a cab or shuttle pick her up and take her to the airport or etc then that makes it more likely that she is at home but not answering for some reason (that reason could include she's now dead.) Anyway, then walk around the house, look in the windows etc.

Do this in broad daylight, don't feel like you are doing anything wrong. If confronted by someone, explain the neighbor has been gone and you're checking on them. If you don't observe anything through any of the windows, you can then call the police--but it's unlikely they will do much more than what I just told you to do. They might go into the residence if they find an unlocked door.

*Unfortunately I'm familiar with the common law history of trespass and how what I just said is a simplification of a certain type of trespass. But generally in the United States even a layman like myself can advise that walking in a neighbor's yard where they have never told you that you may not do so would not typically constitute a misdemeanor trespass offense or even be actionable as the tort of trespass.
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Old 08-28-2013, 05:49 PM
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Sitcoms have taught me many things. The first thing you should do is knock on her doors and windows repeatedly. Then, if no answer, take all of her mail and put it in a safe place. Tidy up her garbage bins, and, if you can reach it, unscrew the lightbulb on the porch in the morning and screw it back in at night. If she doesn't respond in 2 days, and feel free to overreact and check up on her in a few hours, break into her house (quietly) and go room to room with a flashlight searching for her (body). Do not turn on the lights as there may be a gas leak or the robber could still be in there. If she's not home, its a safe bet someone will come to her door right at that time. Disguise your voice as a woman's and answer the door without opening it, making sure to go through her personal belongings to see what type of person she is so you can mimic any details you need to in order to fool the people at the door. Odds are, they will be debt collectors, an ex-boyfriend with anger issues, or the mob. If they refuse to leave, wear a wig and stand in front of the curtains with a light shining behind you to give you the silhouette of a woman (wear her bra to achieve a more womanly figure) and angrily demand them to leave. Never call the police as there's no time. Lastly, look through her stuff to find a phone number of some kind you can call, then, mimicking her voice again, make that call and try to act all nonchalant while trying to get the person on the other end to describe where you might be. By this time, she will have either come home and caught you in the act (still in her bra and wig) or her dead body will have fallen conveniently from the ceiling where it was stored

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Old 08-28-2013, 05:51 PM
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Go ahead call the NON-emergency #. What's the harm?
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Old 08-28-2013, 05:55 PM
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Well, around here, NOT emptying a neighbor's mailbox when it was obvious that it was filling and that the neighbor was not attending to it would be considered a sign of animosity towards said neighbor and towards the neighborhood in general. Around here, folks care about one another; that's what makes us different than most places.....
No need to be so judgemental. Besides, what you're describing - while rarely prosecuted - is a federal crime.

I'm friendly with, and would go far enough as to say I care about, my neighbors. That doesn't mean I'm taking their Victoria's Secret mags or utility bills.
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Old 08-28-2013, 06:56 PM
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If she were dead, either in her home or the closet of a guy she met in a bar; wouldn't her employer be looking for her? I've had an employee no-show (sleeping in due to hangover or flu) and we are calling, concerned, after two hours.
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Old 08-28-2013, 07:26 PM
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I'm simply amazed that somebody out there still subscribes to a newspaper.
I was thinking the same thing.
Maybe it is a weekly free local paper, we have one here. It gets tossed on my drive way (or in the ditch, grass, trees...) and I just pick it up and put it straight in the recycling
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Old 08-28-2013, 08:09 PM
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I was thinking the same thing.
Maybe it is a weekly free local paper, we have one here. It gets tossed on my drive way (or in the ditch, grass, trees...) and I just pick it up and put it straight in the recycling
I love reading the paper. Better than Internet news by far.
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Old 08-28-2013, 08:12 PM
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You could knock on the door. If its been hot you might be able to smell the decay. Seeing the windows covered in flies on the inside is also a clue.

But she's probably on vacation.
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Old 08-28-2013, 08:28 PM
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You don't know her at all, and some of these suggestions, taking in her mail and newspapers, looking in the windows, etc, could be misinterpreted as creepy stalker behavior. I think I'd be uncomfortable if I went somewhere for a few days and my neighbor did that to me, even though they did mean well. If you knew her better it'd be different.
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Old 08-28-2013, 09:02 PM
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If you knew her better it'd be different.
Ah but you missed a very important part of the OP then:

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....a really good-looking single girl....
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Old 08-28-2013, 09:31 PM
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Ah but you missed a very important part of the OP then:
Well not now that she's been half eaten by her cat.
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Old 08-28-2013, 09:56 PM
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Just to comment. I was sick for a while earlier this year, and had the police called for a wellness check... three times apparently. The first two times they came by, I was at doctor's offices. The third I was home.

I didn't learn about the first two visits until some time later. The police didn't inform me when they were called the third time, they never entered, and no notes were left. So I'm not sure calling the cops is going to do much good. Probably won't do any harm either. So it's your call.
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Old 08-28-2013, 10:27 PM
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If she's dead, it's too late to worry about it anyway. The only possible reason to check would be if she's not dead yet, but dying and in need of help, which seems pretty unlikely. The same could be true of any of your neighbors regardless of when you saw them last.
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Old 08-28-2013, 10:55 PM
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The same could be true of any of your neighbors regardless of when you saw them last.
Single. Really good looking. Girl. No other neighbors exist.
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Old 08-29-2013, 12:39 AM
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I'm simply amazed that somebody out there still subscribes to a newspaper.
How the hell do you eat breakfast?
It is biologically impossible to eat corn flakes without reading at the same time.


If my newspaper ever stops publishing (or ceases home delivery), I may starve to death.
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Old 08-29-2013, 02:06 AM
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How the hell do you eat breakfast?
It is biologically impossible to eat corn flakes without reading at the same time.

If my newspaper ever stops publishing (or ceases home delivery), I may starve to death.
You have to be adaptable, in the Darwinian sense. The modern 21st century human sits in front of his desktop computer, reading (and writing) The Straight Dope Message Board, while eating breakfast (and dinner).

ETA: Okay, I'll add something on-topic. Srsly, I worry what would happen to me if I ever have some abrupt accident or medical emergency at home. Nobody would ever notice until the next rent was due and didn't get paid. And even then, I don't know how long it would be, before someone came looking for me.

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Old 08-29-2013, 03:15 AM
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Where do you live? Is Rod Serling the mayor?
It's a nice place in the 'burbs. Town is named Stepford.
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Old 08-29-2013, 03:19 AM
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They do this at my place ....every few months they leave a copy of the Times Union on my front step. It literally goes from the ground to my trash can, I never even take it out of the plastic. Calling them to make them stop just gets you a hard sell.

I will NEVER EVER buy a newspaper subscription.
The Albany Times Useless? I wouldn't subscribe to that one, either.
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Old 08-29-2013, 03:25 AM
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My gut feel is don't do anything. I hate to say this, but communicating in any way with law enforcement puts you on their radar. The moment you make that call, there's something different about you in the event that something is amiss here and an investigation has to be made.

It's messed up this way, I know. Just suppose, hypothetically, that the neighbor had been murdered. You would assume that the cops would not suspect the person who called it in, but then, who else would know something is amiss? Where else would you get this "funny feeling" from?

In any case, it seems unlikely that you could do anything to help her if something is wrong.
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