So you drove up or called an escort service? How could you tell if a service “provided”? (or, as I suspect, did they all?) How could you tell if a street walker was a prostitute, and not just someone going to the store?
I read newspaper articles about the prostitution problem in my city. They told me exactly where to go. Even had a map pointing out the best spots.
Most times we had sex in the car. Sometimes I would get a room in a cheap hotel (usually $50). Sometimes the woman would take me to her place, but I only did that with women I had been with before so I had some sense of whether I could trust them.
Not that I know of. There were transvestites and transsexuals in the area I cruised, so it is possible I was fooled once or twice. Most of them were easy to spot.
I would go any time of day or night. I didn’t have any friends or obligations (besides work), so I could just go whenever the urge hit.
I was never robbed in the sense of the woman saying “Give me your wallet.” I was threatened twice. One time there was a misunderstanding over how much I was to pay. I had said “fifteen” (a lowball figure to start negotiations), she heard “fifty”. She threatened to stab me if I didn’t pay $50. I went to the ATM and paid her.
The other threat was when I tried to back out because the woman was obviously going to run if I gave her the money. She threatened to get her boyfriend or some other guy to beat me up. I paid her instead. She then offered to provide the sex we had agreed to but I declined.
I used an escort service twice. Every other time I picked up a woman on the street.
As far as I know, all escort services “provide.” The two times I used them I was disappointed because the women did not match the descriptions I was given and they are much more expensive. I also didn’t like having to give them my phone number.
Street walkers make eye contact with drivers. Women walking to the store in areas where street walkers work do not make eye contact with drivers.
Oooh, interesting topic.
I’ve always heard that hookers won’t let you kiss them because it’s too personal. What’s your experience with kissing hookers? Did they let you? If so, did you even want to kiss them?
Did you have sex with girls who appeared to be underage (despite make-up and such)?
There were a few who would offer to kiss. There were a couple who really wanted to kiss. I never kissed any of them. It wasn’t because I thought they would contaminate me somehow (if you’ve read my earlier answers, that was hardly a concern of mine), but I just wasn’t interested.
The cops didn’t let the underage girls work the streets. I would see a young girl from time to time, but I learned from the older women that when the cops see the young girls they take them off the streets. I didn’t seek out underage girls but odds are that I did pick some up, though I never picked up anyone who looked underage or who I suspected might be underage.
Do you feel that prostitution should be legal or illegal? Why?
I’ve been asked 3 times… well… it was assumed 3 times that I was a hooker…downtown during the noon hour, by business men in suits. Not at all what I had thought; dark streets, insightful men.
I’ve heard or seen from movies…that hookers usually say that the men wanted more than just an orgasm. Sometimes just paying them for their time… but using it to talk or cuddle and not even hump.
How about you? Was it just strictly sex… or was it companionship too?
I believe prostitution should be legal. I don’t believe that sex for money is immoral. It is just another service, like a massage or a haircut. There surely are women who are victimized by being forced into prostitution, but there are others who do it because it is very profitable and they enjoy sex. Forcing someone into prostitution should be illegal, not prostitution itself.
Some of the women I was with clearly enjoyed the sex (Andrea Dworkin will not agree, but she probably is not reading this thread). Some faked it well. Some of them took pride in the fact that they provided a service which made men happy. Others were obviously only doing it for the money. If I felt that the woman was being forced (if she mentioned having to get home to bring the money to her boyfriend or something) I would give her the money but not have sex with her. I knew some of these women are victimized, and I didn’t want to be involved with them.
What city do you live in (or if that’s too personal, do you live in one of the “big five” or a smallish town)?
Kind of a naive question, but how, exactly, does it work? Would you just pull over, get the woman’s attention, discuss price, and do it? Was there any sort of warm-up, or did you just jump right into the heavy stuff? Did you get to really know any of the women who’s services you used regularly? Or was it just…get in the car, screw, and end it?
Would it bother you if your mother, sister, daughter or wife was a prostitute? How about your son?
There were a few women with whom I struck up a rapport. If they weren’t in a rush, we would sometimes spend time talking before and/or after the sex. As I said before, I was seeking closeness in addition to sex. I was very lonely. I never considered any of them friends, but I did enjoy talking to them. I can’t recall ever cuddling; it would be too personal. Strange lines are drawn.
Several women wondered why a guy like me was paying for sex. I am good looking, reasonably fit, witty, polite, and I make a good amount of money. Most people probably assumed I had no problem meeting women. I was very shy and terrible at small talk, so I didn’t get very far on dates. I didn’t have to worry about that with prostitutes. It was actually good practice. I was able to learn to talk to women without the pressure of worrying about what they thought about me. And I was guaranteed sex.
I lived in Boston at the time.
If my daughter becomes a prostitute, it will bother me. It will also bother me if she becomes a Republican. In either case I will blame myself for raising her wrong. I don’t care if my children are gay or straight, but it would bother me if my son (I don’t have one yet) were to become a prostitute. Or a mortgage broker.
I don’t look down on prostitutes, so if my mother, sister, or wife told me they were ever prostitutes I would not be bothered. As long as it was a choice they made and not something they did because a man forced them I would respect it.
That’s exactly how it works. I was always careful to make sure she offered sex before I offered money. The undercover cops do not say anything which will let you use the entrapment defense. If the woman didn’t make it clear she was offering sex for money I drove away.
Mostly the latter. I answered this in more detail earlier.
I’ve heard it said that men go to prostitutes not for sex, but for them to leave afterwards. Clearly, this was not the case with you, you were looking for sex and closeness by your own account.
Although I never went to prostitutes myself, that was mainly from fear of getting arrested or robbed. If not for that fear, I also might have frequented prostitutes in my younger days. And it also would have been for the sex, not for them to go away afterwards.
Did the women ever confirm or deny this “going afterwards” chestnut? Sounds like BS to me.
Is that two orgasms, or fellatio solely to achieve erection for coitus?
What other terms are used to describe various sex acts? Would the prosistutes let you come on their face? How long would an encounter typically last? Ever visit a massage parlor? If so, are they basically just “dine in” escort services? Ever have two at once?
What’s the foreplay situation like?
None ever told me that one. They mostly said that men came to them because their wives/girlfriends/etc. didn’t satisfy them.
It’s not so much that the women in our lives don’t leave after sex, it’s that they immediately start asking “Do I look fat?”
The latter. Two “pops” (the term generally used) usually costs extra, though there were some women who would charge by the hour rather than by the act.
There is little seducing and carressing, though you can get that if you want. I just jumped right to the sex. You don’t want to spend too much time getting to know your “date” in a car parked behind a warehouse.
Other than “half and half”, most terms are the same ones most people know: Greek for anal sex, head for a blowjob, etc.
Some would let you come on their faces, some would not. Some charged extra, some did not. I did it a few times and concluded that it adds nothing to the experience. There was one woman who requested it, so I would do it for her.
A “date” would last anywhere from a few minutes for a quick blowjob to several hours in a hotel room. More time costs more money.
Never went to a massage parlor. Seemed too risky, believe it or not.
Yes, I had two at once. That was fun.
Without making any moral judgements about prostitution, I just wanted to commend you for having the cajones to share this information with us. It’s been quite fascinating.
Thanks much, and glad you found someone special in your life.