Oh my dear ones, I am so very very sorry for your loss. 
I’m so sorry. Nothing sounds right, so I’ll just say that you and your wife are in my thoughts and prayers.
Ava
I wish you peace and strength during this sad time. My condolences.
zut,
I’m so very, very sorry. I cannot imagine the pain you and your dear wife are feeling. Please know you are in my thougths and prayers. (((((((((hugs))))))))))
ch
No words…
just tears.
My condolelences
This is the first time in years a post made me cry.
God pity you.
zut - My prayers for you and your family. Both my mother and one of my sisters had sets of twins prematurely that died, and both went on to have more children. Although the birth of one never replaces the loss of another, I pray that you and your wife will one day experience the joy of a family.
StG
zut,
You are a courageous, thoughtful, kindly man for the dignity and fortitute with which you handled this extremely disheartening event in your life. The support you have shown your wife in this is extremely admirable, and I also salute your other family members for their emotional assistance and wisdom in caring for you and your wife.
I’m touched that you chose to share your pain with us here, and hope you find some solace in our empathy. The SDMB is in no short supply of caring people who would share your grief, myself among them.
I truly wish you and your wife the best.
so sorry
Where’s the navigator of your destiny
Where’s the dealer of this hand
Who can explain
Life and its brevity
‘Cause there is nothing here
That I can understand
You and I
Have barely met
And I just don’t want to let go of you yet
And so I hold your tiny hands in mine
For the hardest thing I’ve ever had to face
Heaven calls for you
Before it calls for me
When you get there save me a place
A place where I can share your smile
And I can hold you for more than just awhile
I’ll see you on the other side
sweet children of mine
I’ll see you on the other side
(from a song by Michael W Smith called "Hello, Goodbye)
I am so very sorry for you and your wife. My heart, my thoughts, my prayers go out to you.
How very tragic.
Damn.
I can tell you that I utterly understand the ‘I’m sorry’ - the second time I miscarried, I spent hours of what technically amounted to labor saying over and over, I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m so sorry, as I wept and leaned over the kitchen counter with each contraction. Not knowing why I needed to say it, only that I must, for the child that was not to be. Early or late, that response is human, and anyone else who has been there will know what you mean.
Online loss support groups abound - take advantage of them, if you cannot find one in person. It really helps.
Take gentle care, and may you find peace eventually. It will take time, let it take as long as it needs. It doesn’t stop being a loss, though - it just becomes part of the shape of your lives as they finally begin to move forward again.
My tears for you and your family.
I wish I knew some magic words to take away the pain, but I don’t, and I don’t want to inadvertantly cause you more pain in some fumbled attempt at sympathy.
You and your wife and your lovely children are in my thought.
I’m sorry too.
I gather the emphasis on looking at them was because it used to be that stillborn babies were taken away immediately, thinking it would be too upsetting to the parents. So many parents later fretted about never really even seeing those children and just wondering what they would look like, that this thinking began to change.
Nothing else I can think of to say sounds right either, except that I hope the wounds you and your wife have suffered will heal enough, with time, to let you carry on.
I … I …
I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.
My g/f and I have been considering IVF… I am speechless and … well speechless. Thank you for sharing, it must have been soo difficult.
I am deeply moved by your words and my heart bleeds for your loss.
Warmest wishes to you and your wife, my friend.
This’ll teach me to open a thread at work that says “sad” in the title. I’m with Bosda; I can’t even remember the last time a post made me get teary like this.
My heart goes out to you and your wife. God bless.
Zut there is absolutely nothing I could say that might ease your and your beloved’s pain over this loss. Only time and distance will do that.
But, I’d like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your posting of this experience.
You see, I was feeling kinda bad about something in my life.
Now, I just feel ashamed.
You’ve reminded me (and I pray every one else on this board) how completely minuscule my current problems are.
Hang in there and stay strong for your beloved Zut. Now is when she needs you most.
And thank you again.
Mensch
Words can do no justice for what I’m feeling. May you know they are together, and if you believe in it, that they are in a better place. Godspeed.
Words cannot express. I am keeping you and your wife in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care.