I was on vacation last week, and I thought I’d better try forcing myself to have some fun before I got back to the pointless, soul-crushing routine that is my working life. So I went to a bar. I went alone, because that’s how I do everything. I had friends once, people I hung out with, now they’re all gone. So if I want to go to a bar, I have to go alone.
As you might imagine, it was pretty depressing. I sat on an uncomfortable stool nursing my Harp Lager while people all around me sang, danced, and had a good time with their friends and significant others. And nobody wants to talk to a loser alone in a bar. Since I was not contributing to the festive mood of the place, I felt it would have been unfair to the other patrons for me to stay, so I left.
Down the block was a different kind of bar - one with “exotic dancers”. I fiddled with the idea of going in. On one hand, I was really bored and depressed. On the other hand, I was brought up to believe that such things are too morally repugnant to even contemplate. And I’m not even religious, but politically, there’s still the whole “exploiting women” thing. Not that I’ve never been in a place like that before, I’ve just always felt uncomfortable and vaguely guilty about it. In the end, curiosity got the better of me and I went in, thinking “I’ll try not to exploit the women too much”.
Well, my eyes were opened. Nearly as soon as I took a seat, women started walking up to me and striking up conversations. I met lovely young women from Belarus, Lithuania, Russia, Slovakia, and the Czech Republic who were easily as friendly and interesting as any women I met during four years of college. We talked about America, Europe, language, culture, dancing, hopes and dreams… it was almost like a little five-minute date with each one.
Now before you start laughing at me, I’m well aware that they have to be nice to you, it’s how they make their money. I’m not an idiot. But just for the sake of comparison:
Regular bar - A roomful of women avoiding eye contact with me as if I’m a magical djinn and they’d burst into flames if they accidentally looked me in the eye.
“Exotic Dancer” bar - Beautiful, fun women smiling and paying attention to me.
Regular bar - Watching other people have fun while drinking a beer in wretched solitude.
“Exotic Dancer” bar - Actively involved in something resembling social interaction.
What sounds like a better deal to you? Looks like no contest to me. And yet these places are frowned upon. There’s a pervasive attitude that only bums and lowlifes patronize such establishments. Any politician caught in one would face shame and scandal. Nobody wants them in their neighborhood. Yet you can find a regular bar in some of the nicest neighborhoods in America.
Some of you might describe this position as a rather sad and pathetic one to hold. I say, if being tired of drinking alone on a barstool is pathetic, if recognizing the hypocrisy of some of modern society’s moral standards is pathetic, if paying women to talk to you in bars is pathetic, then yes, I’m pathetic. Who’s with me? Fellas? Or for that matter, who’s against me? Anybody think this is a crock, and that strip clubs/go-go bars are morally wrong and that I should go live in a cave somewhere? Tell me what you think.