I feel that my parents don’t propery punish me enough, so what should I do? :(
Punish you for what?
You should appreciate your parents’ kindness and give them some credit for knowing what they are doing.
First of all, see if you can do chores or odd jobs around the neighborhood for some money. Save it up until you can afford to buy one of these. You can get one from an online sex shop. Then, whenever your parents fail to punish you you can flagellate yourself. Do this while quoting Deuteronomy 21:18-21 repeatedly.
Or a regular sex shop. Let’s not be limiting here; the OP might not have a credit card.
Are you growing hair on your palms yet?
Not for that but for the other thing I’ve happened to mention.
Wouldn’t it be more in keeping with your philosophical leanings to not leave punishment up to your parents in the first place?
Thank you for the comment.
I’m sorry, that was uncalled for, Qin.
That’s alright.
You might perform chores/deeds/acts you find boring/tedious/detestable. If you feel you need to make atonement: do so. Mow the lawn. Use the weed-eater. Mop the floor. Clean windows. Making yourself useful and taking some of the burden from your loved ones instead of flogging yourself. Help people. Commit acts of kindness. I guarantee you will reap more reward from kind acts than you will from flogging yourself. Eventually, you will gain control of your emotions and Act Right. Until then: make up for your mistakes and do chores for those who care for you.
If the point of the punishment is to correct behavior, then grow up and fix the behavior yourself.
If the point is vengeance, then trust in their power of forgiveness.
If you think you know how to properly punish a teenager, then wait until you’ve got teenagers of your own and implement your plan.
Sometimes I think you’re just too hard on yourself, Qin. Unless your parents are letting you run around wild, staying out all hours and NEVER disciplining you, I think you need to accept that they’re judgment.
Have you ever had this talk with them?
Actually they barely let me hang out outside at all, they almost always desire some sort of adult supervision over me.
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Yes, they don’t seem to actually remember this.
Your parents probably regard the behavioral issues you mention as being part of your Aspeberger’s (or at least think it might be) and are uncomfortable about punishing it. The thing is, if you already know and understand that its inappropriate, then you don’t need punishment, you just need to stop doing it. If you can’t stop doing it, then punishment is even more pointless.
Do you find your parents emotionally responsive to you in general, or do you find them detached? It occurs to me that you might be subconsciously engaging in those behaviors specifically to try to provoke some kind of emotional response from them.
The “burning with lust” thing is completely normal and natural, by the way. It isn’t wrong and everybody does it. Your dad does it. Your clergyman does it. President Obama does it. Jesus did it. It’s fine.
You failed to mention that girls do too.
I think girls are included in the set of “everybody”.
It seemed reasonable that girls get special mention. 