Not usually one to do this, but I really need some help from some outside opinions. Please forgive the length, and please help as I am really in a dark spot.
Me and my current girlfriend have been together for 2 years now. It has been a great time together and we’re usually on the same page about everything. I am 25 and she is 20.
Most of our time during her school year I go to work 45 min away where I grew up and then stay 2 nights a week there to help on gas. The rest of the nights we are together back where both of our residences are. She is not your average 20 year old college kid, she is very focused on school as a nursing major and rarely drinks, usually when we’re together. We have talked about marriage and kids since we’ve been in it together the first year and we just presume it will happen.
Anyway, I had been cheated on in the past and screwed over by some friends but have never felt the need not to trust her within these 2 years. She recently started a summer camp job where she works with her boss who is a 25 year old lady, another girl her age, and 2 other guys.
I have become increasingly jealous as she has spent more and more time with the group. One of the guys she even snapchats more than me and for some reason that makes me feel uneasy. I wrongly accused her of going out to eat lunch about 3 weeks ago with one of the guy coworkers. She told me a week later on our 2 year anniversery that I should know she would never do anything to jepordize our relationship.
The same guy she snapchats more than me apparently had a thing for one of the other girls but the interest was not returned. While I had my annual guys weekend last weekend (only weekend a year I get to hang out with all my old college buddies), she went out on a boat with all of them and for over an hour at 8pm once they were back, I could not reach her to make sure she was ok because they had been drinking some. On my second attempt to call, she finally answered saying her phone was in her bag and she was driving back home (where we grew up) to see her grandparents and to go to church the next morning.
We had a serious talk Sunday when I got back, as she was visibly upset saying she cant have me accusing and breathing down her neck all the time anymore about it or its going to drive her crazy. One of the guys she views as a jerk (has a gf anyway) and the other when she is talking to alot she and the other girl considers a “gal pal.” Told me I have nothing to worry about and she loves me, I dont need to view the guys like that. She said if it werent for all there friendship she wouldnt have any friends down there this summer because everyone else she knows has gone home.
Monday she came over about 9pm to my place and we were messing around when my “ability” to perform would not happen. She asked me what was wrong and asked if I didnt find her attractive anymore which is obviously not the case, I knew it was nerves I just couldnt tell her that. She told me she wanted to go to sleep and that was the that. She also carried her phone with her everytime she went to the bathroom to shower or to get ready in the morning which seemed odd to me, Im sure shes done it before but its not a recurring thing.
Yesterday morning after she left when she got to work she sent me a message saying “I love you.” which made me feel better. We snapchatted and even talked on the phone a bit throughout the day and everything went ok. I knew she had been invited to go to a country concert tonight with her work friends (only the snapchat guy and 2 other girls this time) and told her to go tonight even after she asked me to tell her If I wanted her to go or not because she wouldnt if I told her no. We have plans to go to a local baseball game tomorrow night and then go to the beach for a night/day friday and saturday before coming back so she can babysit from 6-1 saturday night for some parents she had met the camp. Im also supposed to help her move next weekend into her new place.
I guess im just concerened we havent been spending as much time together recently as we usually have over the past two years while she is seeing these other people and this guy for hours at a time during the day and now going on boats and concerts with them while I’ve really only seen her a few hours in the past week. Is there any reason for concern? I feel like I’m blowing this all out of proportion, but my mind just wont stop trying to trick me.
Thanks in advance to all!