Social progress is a matter of perspective. The next generation’s idea of progress could be getting rid of the last group’s degenerate practices.
That’s rather sad that she would tell other people that she believed that the problems in her marriage were related to her being married interracially, rather than problems with the relationship itself or with her or her spouse.
She should divorce her husband if she’s going to talk out school like that. If i were her husband (thankfully I’m not) if she ever mentioned anything like that I’d either set her straight or we’d part ways.
After my divorce I disapproved of all marriage.
The whole 'what about the children" angle on this is spurious, at best. I think it is driven, at least in part, by superstitions. When I was a little boy, my great-grandmother told us a tale about a white man and a black woman whose children were splotched like spotted cows. <insert shocked amazement here> Now, keep in mind my great-grandmother was born in 1880 or so. But this kind of silliness tends to drift into the next generations and become dispersed by reality eventually.
I have an Asian-American niece and nephew, and they have equally rotten manners and misbehave just as badly compared to my non-interracial niece and nephew.
She was not talking about problems IN her marriage. She was talking about problems her family had from people OUTside the marriage. In <> Out.
She never said that. She said it was something she had to deal with every time she stepped out the door.
Now I said that marriage is hard enough without throwing something like this in.
I’m not sure what the OP is about other than making her feel good about white knighting for race issues (even though the poll didn’t seem to state the race of those asked). I think that 13% is a pretty low percentage of people to be assholes on any subject. I figure the asshole quotient is much higher wherever you go.
The asshole quotient (AQ) is different from the bigot quotient (BQ). Although one can reasonably hope the BQ will reduce over time, the AQ will likely stay pretty constant.
Christ, that was an annoying term when it was just “Men’s Rights” people using it on the internet. I have now just seen it here and in the Nigerian kidnapping thread as a racial term. Please tell me this is not catching on.
I see the beginnings of a research paper…
If you mean “white knight” it is not being used as a racial term. It is someone being the champion of a cause to show what a great person they are on the internet. Although there is no official definition it is generally used for men riding to the internet rescue of women whether they want or deserve it. So I should probably have picked a better phrase. And since it is assigning a motivation to the OP that I can not be certain of I will withdraw it completely. I recognize that I may be prejudiced because of the history of ill-conceived Pit threads that the OP has started.
Yeah.
Got that.
I can read.
However, who really gives a rat’s a*s about what people OUTside of your marriage think about your marriage? When people complain about what they think that others are saying they really mean that they are having problems that they can’t deal and they are externalizing their BS.
Although, and I may very well have missed it, there doesn’t seem to have been much hullabaloo about the Swiffer commercial. Progress?
I don’t know about that. My sister has an interracial marriage, and in her adult life has dated almost exclusively nonwhite guys. My mom is not a racist and has dated nonwhite guys herself, but cautioned my sister that if she married a black guy (which she eventally did), she should think about the negative treatment she might experience, especially if she ended up living somewhere less diverse than where she lives now (which is pretty diverse, and interracial couples there are not terribly unusual).
As offspring of a white dad and a black mom, my siblings and I spent three depressing years in the South in our teens, as our parents went through holy Hell attempting but failing to be accepted socially because of their “sin”.
I’d be interested in seeing the results of the poll broken down by state. I would not be surprised at all if the numbers were more like 50/50 in places like Kentucky, Tennessee, Alabama, Georgia, and West Virginia.
That doesn’t necessarily follow, at all.
I personally know / have known people who not only believe interracial marriage is wrong but that it should be illegal. I know, I know, anecdotes schmanecdotes, but there it is.
When people come to you once. And again. And again. And again. To, for example, ask what adoption agency you used. Or spend several minutes ranting at you because they do not approve of your behavior (which may even be imagined). Again. And again. And again. It is enough of a pain in the ass to make you wonder whether you’re really in the right place and made the right choices that took you to a spot where it is common to get someone berating you.
That is nowhere near the same as confusing the PITA with “a problem marriage”.
I wonder if this is “I don’t approve of interracial marriage for anyone” or “I don’t approve of interracial marriage for my own ethnic group.”
I think the instant image that comes to mind when we think of this putative 13% is crusty old Southern white people, but in my experience - and I grew up in one of the most ethnically diverse places in the country - many Jews and Iranians (for example) wouldn’t care about mixed-race couples in general, but would freak right the fuck out if one of their own family decided to marry an outsider.
This.