I did this, too at that age. It would take me quite a while to put on my ‘normal’ makeup and hair in the morning. Then after dinner, I would play with my makeup and hair for hours.
I turned out okay (and can now do soup to nuts dressed up makeup and hair in less than 20 minutes to include blowdrying).
Between this and talking on the phone, it amazes me that teenager girls find time to do anything else.
Mine spends 30 minutes in the shower. How the hell does a shower take 30 minutes?
Speaker phones do make that sort of multi-tasking easier than it was when I was a teen.
I suggest masturbation as a possibility… but not as a definitive answer.
Long hair? It takes forever to shampoo, rinse, shampoo, rinse, leave conditioner in five mintues, rinse, rinse, rinse. . . Especially if your water is very ahrd or very soft. OR she may just be a bit zoned out in there. 45 minutes was normal for me for years, and it mostly consisted of stand-up sleeping under the hot water. Most girls don’t go for stand-up masturbation.
I spent an hour per day on my hair for years. Then I finally did the math andrealized I was losing 2.5 weeks per year just working on my hair. I cut it all off and haven’t looked back.
That said, it’s important for her to build these skills and experimnet with different looks right now. Hopefully it will settle into a less involved routine at intervals, with occaisional upsurges as her “look” changes.
As her Dad, you cna be really helpful by talking about the delta ( gorge? Chasm?) between what the magazines would like to sell her on, and what guys actually like/notice.
Also, talk a bit about the type of guy who will be attracted to certain looks. “Yes, that’s a very sexy look. Are you hoping to attract men who want to use you? Because that’s who will like it.” I’m sure you can put that moe diplomatically than I did. If not, get your wife to edit the wording.
Well, if you’re a 13-year-old girl, you can easily spend 30 minutes in the shower–normal washing, plus the ordeal of trying to shave your legs when you’re reasonably new to it, trying to shave your underarms without dislocating your shoulder (because you’re 13 and you still have to look and see what you’re doing), washing your hair, conditioning your hair, combing your hair out, deep-conditioning your hair, really thoroughly scrubbing your hair South Pacific-style, singing in the shower and pretending you’re Taylor Swift, fucking around with hair treatments you made in the kitchen, or just generally hanging out enjoying the water.
If you’re a 13-year-old boy, you’re masturbating.
That’s going to depend on whether they have a handheld shower massager in tub or stall.