Yuck. Definitely rude, though not deliberately so.
I probably wouldn’t have gone nuclear, though. I might have mentioned it to him and asked him to clean it up, but he’s still a guest. Not that such status means he can shit in the sink or something, but since it seems like an unthinking, genuine mistake, I’d take a lighter tone. A well-timed “Hey, X, you missed the toilet and peed on the seat! Mind wiping that up for me?” would probably go a long way toward preventing him and anyone else present from ever making that mistake again. Just make sure you do it in front of everyone. As a bonus, he’ll probably be very embarrassed.
I even clean up the toilet seat in hotel rooms. Why should some poor Hispanic woman have to clean up for my poor aim. I also clean up the toilet seat after some back splash.:o
Male here. The guy was rude and gross. But there is apparently a lot of members of my sex who don’t care. Be glad you don’t have to use a public men’s room. Personally I’m glad you called him out on his behavior. Maybe he’ll behave more considerately for others in the future.
First… real men don’t piss standing up with the toilet seat down. It either leads to either the work of wiping it off, or being a complete jackass who leaves it sitting there soaked with piss. If you’re a woman and find the seat up, don’t complain, thank whoever it was who kept your seat sanitary by raising it. Though smearing urine around on a seat with toilet paper may remove the visible contamination, it still doesn’t exactly sterilize it.
Second… if you find piss on the seat, you may want to take pause before you go nuclear on someone. I had a friend (female) who went into the bathroom, found the seat had been given a golden shower treatment, found the house-guest (female) who had used it immediately before, and gave her a humiliating and public dressing-down. The object of the tirade, livid, protested that the seat was already sprinkled with piss when she got there, and it wasn’t her job to clean up someone else’s piss nor sit in it. So she just “hovered” and went about her business.
I’m not sure what the right etiquette is in that situation, but I’m pretty sure my friend was in the wrong for hunting down the alleged perpetrator and publicly embarrassing her.
Well, I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I would hope he unknowingly dripped a few drops onto the seat, and simply didn’t know there was anything to clean up.
If he did know about it though, then yeah, that’s just classless, and gross. If that’s his normal MO at his own domain, then hey, that’s his business, but when he’s a guest in someone’s home, then act accordingly.
You left out that it’s also incredibly rude. Who would go into anyone’s home and make a mess like that and not clean it off?
If Ms Hook was that offended by one of my friends actions in our own home I’d tell him to clean up his act (clean up his act, snerk, snerk) or keep away!
The appropriate response is clearly to walk over to him and touch him somewhere (cheek, neck, arm, hand, face ideally) with a dripping wet hand. When he complains that you got him wet, say “sorry, about that! We were out of TP, so I used my hand…what? Urine’s sterile!”
Female
It’s gross: I don’t care if it’s supposedly sterile. Other peoples’ body fluids are gross.
It’s inconsiderate: Someone else has to clean up after you.
Clean up your own bodily fluids!
I’m thankful I’ve never once had to clean the seat after Mr J. That would piss me off.
Male, and that’s gross. Some of my gender are just plain, flat-out pigs. Check the men’s room at a truck stop or service station sometime. It’s hard to tell if the previous users were born in a barn or under one.
female, and another vote for ewwwwwww! And as for the sterility argument, so is molten lava, but I wouldn’t want to sit on that either.
My official biggest pet peeve is women who “hover” in public restrooms and appear to have a lawn sprinkler installed downbelowdecks, because I can see piddle all over the seat, floor, and in one really bad case a suspiciously moist roll of toilet paper in the holder.
I remember in college, above the TP holder in every stall in every ladies’ room in one building there was a typewritten notice reading “IF YOU DO NOT INTEND TO SIT, PLEASE WIPE THE SEAT SO THE REST OF US DO NOT HAVE TO SIT ON YOUR URINE!!!”
Obviously someone on staff got pissed off (pun intended with malice aforethought) one time too many.
However, I’d just clean it up, file this away in Husband’s Friend’s permanent record, and continue on with the pleasantries of the evening. If he comes by later and has a repeat performance, all hell will break loose.
Female.
Peeing on the toilet seat is rude, but almost certainly not deliberate. Humiliating a guest for something that was almost certainly an accident, however, is unforgivably rude, so I would clean it up and go about my business. If he made a habit of it, I’d say something to him privately, or, if it was a gathering of people I knew very well, I’d make a general announcement for whoever was peeing on the seat to stop it, without naming names.
This drives me crazy, too. I often think that women are worse than men about peeing on the seat. There’s nothing worse than a woman hellbent on hovering on shaky legs, convinced that putting her butt on the seat is tantamount to sitting in a puddle of raw sewage. Of course, after the hover method, it often is.
Peeing on the seat in a private home (ie., someplace where you’re not afraid to touch the seat) is evidence of stupidity, poor hand-eye-penis coordination, and rudeness (if you don’t clean it up).
I’m male. It’s gross. I don’t care if it’s sterile- I don’t want to clean up other people’s bodily wastes.
