Wow. This is sort of interesting, given that my soon-ex and I are going to be attending our first hearing soon, where the judge will establish support.
Technically, he owes back support, because we’ve been separated for 10 months and he hasn’t paid support at all. But he’s made the house payment during that time, so maybe he’ll get credit for that. I have no idea what to expect as far as back support goes (any ideas?), but I think they’ll begin garnishing his wages for future support immediately.
I believe his reaction to all of this could best be described as…rabid. He is absolutely livid that he will be expected to pay support for our kids, and that he will have basically no control over my life in spite of the fact that he’s “paying” me to “babysit” the kids for him, as if somehow I don’t contribute to the bills and the upbringing of these little ones.
He says I should feel guilty, but you know what? I don’t have the option of packing up a few changes of clothes and my porno tapes and going to live in someone’s spare bedroom. I have four kids to deal with here, and finding housing for my family is not going to be simple or inexpensive. So frankly, I’ll take what I can get. He’ll still have a decent income left over.
Of course, not everyone’s situation is like mine; I’m not judging anyone here. Just sayin’.
Best,
karol