My tastes run closer to yours, and my top three picks for a trip to Italy are:
- The Amalfi Coast
- Cinque Terre
- Venice
I lived in Venice for a while and have traveled a fair amount in Italy. Although none of these are probably great for a very long stay (someplace like Rome or Milan has more amenities and is more livable from an American point of view), I think these three are all unique, wonderful, must-see places.
Florence and Rome are definitely worth seeing, but they didn’t have as much emotional impact for me as these smaller towns. And your guess about tons of exhaust fumes, loud cars, etc. is correct.
Venice does not allow land vehicles of any type on the main island, not even bicycles, so the sounds of the city are stunningly different from those of almost any other city… it merits its old title, La Serenissima: just voices, splashing water, the creaking and clanking of water buses against the piers, a few boat horns, the church bells ringing out an almighty racket every hour or half-hour. (oh, and horrible Eurotrash techno piped out of shop windows or boom boxes here and there). But it’s an amazing place to just wander and get lost in. There’s no bad, or even ugly or boring part of town to stumble into–the whole city, give or take a very few modern buildings, looks as it did hundreds of years ago; sometimes you see a building from the 19th century and are surprised at how new it is.
So my top recommendation is to spend a few days in Venice, with a day trip to Burano, a tiny island in the lagoon known for its colorful houses and traditional lace; also the glassblower’s island, Murano, although it’s overrated, IMHO.
Wander around, see some museums (the Doge’s Palace, the Guggenheim), go up the Campanile and feed some pigeons in St. Mark’s Square if you’re not squeamish. Then get away from St. Mark’s Square and wander around lesser-known corners of the city, stop in at random tiny restaurants for a meal or pick up a slice of pizza and some gelato, get hopelessly lost in hundreds of twisty little alleyways. Go see the Rialto fruit and vegetable market and the fish market. Ride the vaporetto (water bus) up and down the grand canal. It’s a huge ripoff, something like 6 Euros a head for tourists… If you want to be in a gondola for just a few minutes, just so you can have the experience briefly, board one of the traghetti, which are gondola ferries that just go back and forth across the Grand Canal, and cost less than a dollar. (Or you can shell out for the full-on 60+ Euro gondola ride if you want to be on the gondola for more than five minutes.)
If I were you, I would stay away from getting a hotel room facing a canal. Sure, it’s romantic, but there is STENCH coming out of those canals sometimes and there’s no way to be sure if your room faces a good canal or a bad one until you get there.
Go to Campo Santa Margherita after dark for “nightlife.” Or do a bar crawl and eat cicchetti, eat as many fried sea creatures as you can stand.
I loved Pompeii, but as a day trip from the Amalfi coast–I’m not sure it’s worth spending more time in.
Sicily was great, too, but is an entirely different experience than Northern Italy, and I’d recommend saving it for a second or third trip.