Hmm… I’m trying to think of how to even put this question so that it makes sense…
Okay, imagine that you had a horrible, debilitating phobia about something. Then imagine that something went wrong medically that involved this EXACT PHOBIA. Basically, it would be about the worst experience you could go through, no matter how dumb it might sound to someone else. But THEN imagine that there was still more to deal with, and that you were afraid nobody would understand…
Okay, now that we’re all imagining that, here are the specifics.
I have a lot of vision problems and absolutely horrible phobias about them, which is a REALLY unfortunate combination. Basically, between a VERY high nearsightedness correction (whatever you’re thinking, it’s probably higher than that!) and optic nerve damage from an accident, my vision couldn’t be a whole lot worse and still be correctible to the point where I can drive, read, and get around. (I’m kind of amazed I can.)So, I’m blessed from that POV, and I’m grateful.
BUT…
I was recently under horrible stress and had a job with completely insane hours, and was also sick with flu, not drinking enough water, not eating well or sleeping, etc… I ended up with Keratoconjuctivitis sicca, or dry eye. I had to see an emergency doctor where I live. Now, as nuts as this may sound, I always still see my optometrist from where I used to live. That’s because I had awful experiences with optometrists for years, including one who ended up going to jail for molesting children (I’m not kidding.) I finally found one who was wonderful and willing to work with me. Trying to get my vision to 20/20 by piling on more and more negative diopters just does not work, and I’ve been through some nightmarish experiences in the past with doctors who kept trying it. It’s so much better, with all the close work I do, if I have a prescription I can live with, that’s maybe 20/40, and then wear overglasses for driving. That’s what my wonderful optometrist does.
BUT…
My emergency doctor that I had to see helped me a lot, prescribed medication, and has helped me feel so much better. The problem is that he also decided I needed new contacts, and I have to pick them up this week. I’m scared that I’m just going to have go through the same awful kind of ordeal I have in the past. I CAN’T DO IT. Call me cowardly or dumb or nuts or whatever… we all have our limits. I can’t do it, I can’t do it, I can’t do it. If I end up overcorrected with advice to “just get used to it,” I can’t. I’ve been having nightmares for weeks about this.
I’m seeing my regular optometrist in August, when I go back to Minnesota for a visit. So what do I do if I get a prescription I cannot live with? Do I say, “I’'d rather wear the contacts I had before, because they’re very comfortable now, and then get a new prescription in August from my regular optometrist?” Do I run screaming and have a nervous breakdown? (I don’t think that would take care of the problem…)
Well, I hope this post made sense. I don’t know if I succeeded in really conveying the depth of this phobia, or if I even can, in a way that would make sense… but all advice appreciated.