I have often heard that extreme aggressiveness in human males is often a sign of repressed homosexuality. One theory is that the frustration of keeping their sexuality a secret has contributed to aggressiveness. Another more reasonable sounding theory is that they are subconsciously trying to express themselves as excessively “macho,” so that no one would dare think they were gay.
I have noticed that the topic of sex is discussed more frequently by aggressive men, and they are often the ones who will target homosexuals and either ridicule them, use derogatory language to describe gays, or use “gay” as an insult. I wonder how much of it is testosterone, and how much of it is desperation. Maybe they are trying to convince themselves of something.
Perhaps this would explain the frequency of abusive husbands, as compared to abusive wives. Violence is considered an expression of maleness, and it would be easier to be violent towards someone to whom one is not attracted, but is part of the charade.
On the other hand, maybe the belief that overly aggressive males are repressed homosexuals was concocted as an elaborate way to say, “Nu-uh, you’re gay.” After all, the openly gay men I know are particularly non-aggressive, with their cruelest deeds being nothing more than brutal honesty. But even my heterosexual friends are like that. I like to be around non-aggressive people.
So, is there any real research that suggests that the overly-aggressive, macho, gay-bashers may be secretly “in the closet?”