I hear ya, Michael!
My father-in-law likes to use JunoMail in plain text mode only. He swears someone told him he can’t get viruses via text-only e-mail. He signed up for FaceBook because someone told him he could use it to advertise his books to increase sales – but he has no idea how to craft a page, much less an advertising campaign. He actually has two computers, a laptop and a tower, and he never connects the tower to the Internet because someone told him that would let spammers find him. To distinguish that one from the Internet Laptop, he refers to it as the Desktop. This makes it really difficult to ascertain “What do you see there on the desktop” when I’m trying to help him via phone or e-mail.
But he’s doing better than my mother ever did; she couldn’t get used to ATM machines. Then again, I’m glad she never discovered e-Bay…
And, for that matter, he’s over 90 years old so the fact that he uses a computer at all (mostly writing sermons in Microsoft Word and playing Solitaire even though he doesn’t understand the rules) is pretty impressive. But age really has nothing to do with it.
I also try to provide a bit of technical help to the lady who cuts my hair. She relocated her business and got a cheap security camera system for the new place so I offered to get it connected to the Internet so it could store back-ups of the daily recordings. I refurbed an old computer to facilitate that and she said, “Cool! I want to send ads and coupons to my clients’ by e-mail!”
Yeah, but doing that means learning some sort of word-processing program and learning how to work with e-mail and contact lists and – well, basically she doesn’t have the technical acumen to start learning all that. She’s a licensed beautician and hairdresser and that’s her profession and she has no interest in learning outside of that field. [And I’m not inclined to do it all for her, either.]
So, like your mother, I can encourage my barber and my father-in-law to do as much as possible and, really, at some point I have to just step back and accept that they are just not going to be skillful with this technology. That’s sometimes hard to accept but I also remind myself that I can’t draw a straight line with a CAD program and that’s probably just as frustrating to my wife and sister and many other people who are, if not really good artists, at least able to sketch well enough to be vaguely understood.
I second the suggestion of a course. If the person teaching her isn’t going to come to her house to help, she might force herself to learn. Plus, if she has to pay for the course, she might have more investment in comprehending the material.
You might check out the course(s) for her in advance, though. The reason I’ve ended up as family tech-support is because my father-in-law was taking a course long ago and the instructor was teaching the seniors to do all sorts of weird stuff. One weekend, my father-in-law called me for help because he had followed the instructor’s example and made his computer into an FTP server. Why? He barely uses e-mail! Well, that’s what the instructor showed us this weekend. Weeks later, I got a call because the course instructor taught, “When you need more storage and decide to install another hard drive, here’s how to format it so it will accept your data.” except my father-in-law didn’t quite hear the ‘when adding storage’ clause so he just went home and reformatted his hard drive. :smack:
So his wife forbade him to continue attending those classes and I started getting calls for help when things “…just disappeared! I didn’t do anything. It’s just gone!” :dubious:
–G!