OP was already paying for the calls–the boyfriend always asks to be called back, so that he doesn’t have to pay for the calls. Now those calls cost OP more than before because of the provider change.
He is obviously a selfish user, not willing to invest anything in the relationship and content to go along for the ride at OP’s expense. Time to quit picking up the tab for the calls and watch them disappear.
So next time he calls and says “Call me right back” say no. He obviously is doing this to lower HIS bill. Are your incomes that disparate that he feels you can better afford the phone bill? Since he made this change knowing that it would affect you financially, it was rude of him to not let you know in advance, and you are not unreasonable to feel hurt, if this is a relationship of long standing.
A former coworker lived with a guy for 6 years who never , in any of those years, bought her a meal without expecting to be paid back, and promptly. One time when the fridge was empty and she was broke for a few days before payday he said he was running out to get burgers for dinner. When she asked him to get her something, and said she didn’t have any cash or expectation of cash in the next few days, he refused and came home and ate his dinner in front of her. This was one of a series of red flags she had ignored for far too long. She wised up and finally left him. Penny-pinching guys, especially ones who don’t have to be, are not likely to change into generous full partners.
I think you should make him call you. Then set up a premium-rate number, and make him call that. Then say “see how annoying it is?”
ETA: I’m using Tapatalk on an iPad, and I can’t get those quote marks and italics to look right no matter what I do. Sorry folks.
I think it’s unreasonable to be upset that someone changed their own phone that you do not pay for to a different service provider.
This “call me back so I don’t have to pay for the call” thing is a different story, though. As I see it, that’s the real issue here. I’d say it’s perfectly reasonable to be upset that your boyfriend expects you to be the one to pay whenever he wants to talk on the phone.
People still have time limits on their phone?:dubious:
I honestly thought all plans were unlimited these days. Heck, I pay $100 for unlimited data and minutes for my son and I. (Two phones)
I have 500 minutes/month on my plan with 200MB/month data and unlimited messaging (just $35), but I intentionally chose that plan because I only use about 6 minutes a month and virtually 0 data.
But it does not cost me any different to call people on other providers, I’m still 
about that.
I don’t know why it makes a difference who calls who. Whenever I make calls to other people’s cell phones, we both get billed for the usage. No?
Seriously? In the UK, only the caller gets charged, via mobile or landline. Has been this way for ever. The only time I get charged for receiving stuff is if I want to access my voicemail when I’m overseas.
And most call plans I’ve seen recently are unlimited minutes to any network anyway. Makes me laugh when my Dad, who still thinks mobile phones are for rich people, says ‘this call must be costing you a fortune’ because I’m (a) on a mobile and (b) in a different part of the country from him.
Seriously. In the US, only landlines receive for free. Though I’m pretty sure there are still some cell companies that allow “in network” calls that don’t count against either parties’ minutes. Call to a different provider number, both parties get dinged. Lots of people still have plans that have limited minutes. Lots of pay-as-you-go.
It’s the same as the UK in Australia, but as has been pointed out it’s not the case in the US.
To address the OP’s question “Am I being unreasonable?” Registering onto a message board to complain about a partner changing phone providers without informing you and not contributing to any other threads, my vote is yes, it’s unreasonable. 
What you allow is what you shall have to deal with, Changing carriers that I pay for… Really? That stupid shit would stop in 3 mins. or less! Put your big girl pants on and cancel his phone. Seriously could dick be that good?
If paying for calls were a big issue I’d only use Skype™, and get a phone number on Skype™ other people can call when they want to speak with me.
Other free computer to computer audio and video packages may be available.
the switching of phone companies was a descriptor of his next act, having her pay for the calls.
Simple really…not unreasonable to be pissed. If you continue to call him back the only one you should be pissed at is you. Set the boundary fast and hard so there is no room for misunderstanding on his part!!!
I think he must be very, very good in bed.
"My boyfriend recently changed phone companies (he is no longer with the same company that I am with)…
Yawn. I wonder if there’s a new poll somewhere?
“…but did not tell me.”
What the?? I don’t even… Controlling b*** maybe? Hmm, must read on…*
“He thinks it is unreasonable to expect that he should have told me…”
Well, duh.
“…despite the fact that he always asks me to call him back so that I pay for the calls. These calls are now…”
WHAT!!!? THE???! HELL!?!?! Immediately clicks on link
Well done, FAL01, for an excellent popup on the IMHO title page.
Make him call you, and DON’T call him back.
And if he doesn’t like it, then bin him .
Yes, you are being unreasonable. No one should expect to consult with a boyfriend or girlfriend about every (or any) changes they make among their service providers. You have a perfect right to tell him that since it’s so much pricier he’ll have to pay for his own calls. But to be angered that he didn’t get prior permission verges on obsessive stalkerism.
This makes absolutely no sense. If she has the right to “tell him that since it’s so much pricier he’ll have to pay for his own calls,” she inherently has the right to be upset that she’s was forced into that situation without discussion.
You were just looking for a reason to justify your gut reaction without using your brain. And I get so tired of seeing this here.