My boyfriend recently changed phone companies (he is no longer with the same company that I am with) but did not tell me. He thinks it is unreasonable to expect that he should have told me despite the fact that he always asks me to call him back so that I pay for the calls. These calls are now considerably more expensive. What do you think?
He now calls you. Never give your husband a break when it comes to finances. Why loosen on that with your BF?
The implication being… ?
What is it you think is going on? You suspect him of cheating on you? What other reasons do you have to arouse your suspicion?
I am not concerned with the fact he changed companies, just the fact he does not understand why I am hurt that he did not tell me
He doesn’t have to tell you anything, you don’t have to date him. You can both win!
So why are you hurt that he didn’t tell you?
If he expects her to call him and the new service is more expensive, then his decision involved both of them. For that reason, he should have told her what was going on.
It sounds like her phone bill was shockingly higher than she expected.
I think your boyfriend is an asshole and you are a doormat.
Is this like a pay-as-you-go thing? I’m not sure I understand why the cost of the calls changes.
Did he know that changing phone companies would impact your phone bill? If not, I get feeling annoyed, but not hurt. I mean, yeah, most phone companies don’t charge for “in-network” calls so if he thought about it he might’ve come to that conclusion, but that probably wouldn’t occur to someone you’re dating or not sharing a phone plan with. I imagine he’d switched plans because it cost him less money and (hopefully) didn’t realize the possible impact to you.
That said, if he knew it would affect you financially, he sounds like a douchebag.
Pretty much. Why are you calling him back? So you can pay for the calls which he just made more expensive by leaving your network. Stop. That might mean the end of the relationship - yeah, I’d cry big tears over a loser who can’t pay for his own phone calls.
Hmm. I guess I’m the odd man out here, but this seems an incredibly, astonishingly petty thing to get worked up about. It’s a change of service provider. It wouldn’t even occur to me to get permission (particularly from a non-spouse) for such a thing, and it probably didn’t occur to him that it would make the calls more expensive.
If he’s not sympathetic (and I mean that in the financial sense) to the fact that it’s costing you more, that’s something to get upset about. And even then, I’m assuming this is an amount of money that’s significant to you.
Sorry I guess I’m a little slow tonight, but I just figured it out, I think: this is about a land line, right?
I’ve actually got to agree with TimeWinder on this one.
I’ve got a solution: kill the archaic land line and get mobiles. On cell phones minutes are minutes no matter what company you’re with, no?
I don’t think it’s a landline. I have Verizon, and I can call other Verizon people for a low charge or no charge. Sprint people cost more. They were using the same provider and he switched. Her calls cost more, and I agree with Manda JO, her bill was probably higher than she expected.
You’re not being unreasonable, but I would also suggest that you make it clear to him that his change has negatively affected you, and you both need to figure out a solution to it. Why are you always paying for the calls, anyway? That’s not exactly chivalrous.
You’re right, this is probably what happened. But I honestly had no idea cell phone companies still cared about this. I thought it was all “anytime, anyone” minutes nowadays. Boyfriend is probably the same way.
Why do you pay for his calls? If he’s such a big baby that his girlfriend has to pay for his calls, then he can’t complain when his girlfriend gets to choose his phone provider.
I had to check to see if this was a zombie thread from 2004 or something…I didn’t know people still used phone plans that have anything less than unlimited minutes…You can get unlimited talk and text plans as low as $35 per month
Being irked about the cost/inconvenience is reasonable, if somewhat petty. Being hurt that he changed phone providers without consulting you is extremely unreasonable and borderline insane.