and I wish I lived in a society like that. I am really fucking frustrated, because I am asthmatic and lost a family member early on from COVID. So I am being super careful. I have not set foot in a grocery store or any other building than my own home since March (except for two medical appointments that couldn’t be handled via telemedicine, one of which was to get my flu shot because it seemed safer to go to my doctor’s office for a few minutes than to sit in a random pharmacy for Lord knows how long). Groceries are obtained via delivery, curbside pickup, or growing them in my backyard. I have only seen my own mother outdoors, masked, and from 6+ feet away. The riskiest things we have done since March are host a veggie giveaway at a local community garden, masked and outdoors, for 2 hours a week. Oh, and a couple of times we have had a friend or two in the backyard, again masked and 6’ feet away (luckily we have a couple of small tables, so once we even had a dinner with all parties 20+ feet away from each other). And I can count those occasions on one hand.
We both work remotely and have the good fortune to own a car, so we don’t need to rely on public transportation, although Tom Scud has to go to the office maybe once a month for a couple of hours to work with materials that don’t exist in electronic form. I started a new job a few weeks ago and have literally never been to the office. During quarantine, I decided to try to make a kitchen backsplash and haven’t been able to put a couple of the electrical outlets back together; at this point, it looks like we are simply going to limp along without them until there’s a vaccine, even though it’s somewhat of a safety issue, because I am fucking terrified of having anyone in our house. Thanksgiving has been cancelled.
If everyone in the country exercised a similar level of caution when possible (making allowances for people who need to use public transportation and people who do essential jobs that can’t be done remotely), and wore masks when around people not in their household, we’ be DONE by now. If people want to take small risks on occasion, like seeing a family member in a reasonably cautious way, it wouldn’t make a huge difference IF everyone exercised caution the rest of the time. But we are still on the upswing of the next wave of giant clusterfuck because people think their right to gather in large groups without masks, or drink indoors at a bar, trumps everyone else’s right to live a somewhat normal life.
I am hoping I manage not to lose my mind completely over the winter. And that my 77-year-old mom, who lives alone, and my 80-year-old father, who lost his wife of 30+ years to COVID in April, gets enough companionship from my 31-year-old brother, who has uprooted his life with his own girlfriend to be with Dad since April, don’t lose their minds either. And in many ways, my family has it far better than most people - we are middle class, and are either retired or have jobs that allow remote work.
I want to live in a society full of responsible adults. Is that too much to ask? Apparently.