I have family members who are police officers. Both worked hard to travel up through the ranks. One is currently an administrative Captain and one reached the rank of Lieutenant before becoming involved in a political dispute and resigning.
I thought I would like to be a police officer, wanting to get ‘bad guys’ off of the streets. I rode with police officers to observe, plus talked extensively with my family member, visited the police station many times, and even took a test or two that many officers take in training.
My family member went through years of college as well as being on the streets in order to climb the ladder and then had to play the political game to some extent the higher he went. (It is doubtful that he will ever be Chief because he refuses to get heavily involved in politics and the position of Chief is very political.) Even now, he flies now and then to training courses, seminars and such to learn more.
I discovered that I could not be a police officer. I would probably kill someone. The tension, the rules and regulations the have to follow, the daily danger, the massive amounts of paperwork they have to do – AFTER and arrest and the places they have to go plus the laws they need to learn and their appearance in court to face lawyers who delight in trying to tear them apart was just too much for me.
The general public was even worse!
Don a badge, the uniform, the gun and the public sees you not as a person but as an icon, a symbol of authority and expects you to be perfect. They expect you to be superhuman!
In the 70s they had all of these ‘nice guy’ cop shows where cops were going out of their way to help people, give them breaks, being therapists, understanding the actions of the crook and having cool family lives. Very nice but not very practical.
I learned that Joe and Josephine Average Citizen are not a cops friend most of the time. I learned that even off duty a Cop is ON duty. Most cops I know go armed almost everywhere, even when in civvies and out for burgers with the family. Several long time cops have guns hidden in strategic spots around their homes because of the many death threats by crooks they arrested and sent to jail.
Stop Joe $100,000 a year businessman in his $50,000 car and he goes from being Mr. Average to being Mr. ‘who-the-f**k-do-you-think-YOU-are-stopping-me-because-I-was-doing-20-miles-over-the-limit-because-I-am-important-and-in-a-hurry?’ he gives the officer a ration of crap and the officer has to be polite and watch what he says.
Had he delivered that same ration of crap to another average citizen, he would have gotten a punch in the face but a cop cannot do that.
A cop shows up at a spouse beating scene, finds the wife beaten half to death and the husband still thumping on her, breaks it up, has to fight with the guy who is determined to hurt the officer and discovers that wifey is jumping into the mix because HE is HURTING HER MAN!
An officer stops a young guy for a minor traffic violation, probably planning to give him just a warning and the kid produces a gun and tries to kill him over a possible ticket!
He stops Ms. Cute and Sweet, who flirts with him to try to get out of a ticket, gets one anyhow and then later charges him with attempted rape or sexual harassment! If he should give in to a sexual bribe, to meet the woman later, off duty and does so, afterwards it has not been unknown for the lady to file charges against him for sexual blackmail or rape.
Drunks are bad. I know of one old guy who was stopped because he was plastered, gave the cops a hard time, was hauled off kicking and ranting and in his truck they found not only a loaded .45, but, under the seat, a machete, a huge switchblade – the biggest I’ve ever seen – and a sawed off shotgun. Young men who are drunk, especially BIG ones seem to often want to fight the officer. Get into the high crime minority areas and they often want to try to kill the officer.
I took a test where one faces a suspect, gun drawn, and in a series of scenarios he is reaching for - a wallet, a card telling you he is deaf, or a gun. It is up to you to determine which and whether or not to shoot. I used a real gun loaded with live shells – stuffed with cotton wads.
I ‘killed’ the guy several times as he reached for his wallet or the deaf card. I ‘killed’ him once as he drew a gun. He ‘killed’ me several times as I hesitated, not wanting to shoot an innocent person.
I determined that I could not take the massive amount of verbal abuse the cops go through from people without striking out in anger. Nor could I control myself and use ‘minimum force’ to restrain and contain a violent man if attacked. Nor could I handle judges and lawyers getting rapists, killers and thieves off because I forgot to dot an ‘i’ or failed to do something ‘just right’ in the paper work.
I decided that the pay was far too low for me to go out and risk getting shot just because someone was having a bad day. I understood why cops have one of the highest depression, divorce, suicide and heart attack rates in the nation.
I understood why cops develop a ‘cop’ attitude and often accumulate friends who are in law enforcement only.
If you be nice, as a cop, to the general public, and understanding, the chances are high that one of those you give a break to is going to either shoot or stab you when you least expect it or try real hard to ruin your career. PLUS, those you arrest and poke in jail might run into you, off duty, having a few drinks and, fortified by their own alcohol consumption, decide to try to kick your ass. (I observed this in person in a strip club with my family member at a bachelor party. He handled it quietly and well away from the others and the disgruntled ex-con was hauled off to jail – again.)
I cannot be a cop. I admire and respect those who are. I actually understand when some react like they should not and I am always bemused by the insistence on local governments to provide such low pay for people to daily risk their lives for us and who always insist on never providing sufficient help to cover almost any given city. PLUS, who always, in times of financial trouble, decide to cut funds for the police as one of their first ‘cost saving’ moves.
It’s like the local governments don’t want enough police out there to provide great service and cut crime down to nearly nothing. Plus, Joe Citizen has even COMPLAINED on the rare times that sufficient cops were on duty because he felt they were infringing on his rights to do things he might not want seen.
No Sir. When a cops stops me, I say Yes Sir and No Sir and I might not like it, but I respect the man and the badge. They do a job that I simply cannot do for a pay that I would sneer at because of the danger involved.