I’m so sorry. And I am praying for all of you.
Regards.
Shodan
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I have tears in my eyes and my heart for you. I know there’s little anyone can say to ease your pain, but know, we would, if we could.
Tell us his name and we will remember him.
And we will remember you and your wife, too, in our good thoughts and prayers. I hope you can gather some strength from knowing there are people here who care about all three of you.
Your son has your love, and in whatever way he can, he will feel it and know it. That’s the most important thing any father can do.
Add me to the list of Dopers who are crying with you. I wish there was something I could say or do to make things better. Just know that there are lots of us out here who are thinking of you and your family and think your little guy is incredibly lucky to have such loving parents. Please keep us updated and share his name with us.
GT
TokyoPlayer, we’re here for you.
Vent, & we will listen.
I too cried as I read your post. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this tragic news and these difficult decisions. Your love for your family shines through in your message and it is clear that you will be the best possible father that your son could possibly have regardless of the circumstances of his birth. The unconditional love you’ve shown here is what truly being a parent should be all about. You are an inspiration to all of us. I’ll certainly keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Your son is fortunate to have have such good parents as you and your wife. I admire your courage and unwavering love.
Real tears here also.
But also admiration and inspiration.
Brian
Oh my.
You and your wife are amazing people.
No matter what happens, TokyoPlayer, you’ll always be a good father. My best wishes for you, your wife and your son.
I’m so sorry for this news. I’ve been following your threads about your son, and I just want to echo those who have said that your son will know how much you love him.
I never have anything profound to say in moments like this. I just can’t find the words. But my heart is with you.
TokyoPlayer the three of you remain in my thoughts and prayers. I, too, have real tears as I sit here posting this. Your son will know he is loved for as long as the two of you have him. The words you posted could only have come from the heart of someone who will love and cherish him as long as he is with you.
I’ll certainly add you and your family to my prayer list. My church believes in Hope.
You have my deepest sympathy. I hope you all can find some peace.
I’ve also been following your story since your original post, and I really hoped that things would turn out better for your family.
My heart aches for you and your wife. I’m so sorry.
Thank you all so much for your kind words of support. We’ll go in today (it’s Monday morning here) to talk to the doctors again. We may decide the date today. I’m going in to work for a couple of hours, and then I’ll take the rest of the day off.
Thanks again.
I’m so very sorry. Best wishes to all of you.
I’m crying and hoping for the best - and I join everyone in saying that your child, for however long he is around, will be loved and therefore live as full a life as he can.
hug
~Tasha
Tokyo Player, as a fellow Japan doper, I have always paid attention to your posts, and as a fellow parent, when you told us of your baby’s problems I felt great sympathy for you all. I’ve been keeping you in my thoughts over the past few weeks, and I’m so sorry that you have such bad news.
Your baby is loved and he knows that. Continue to cherish him and your wife for as long as you can.
Right now, dealing with practicalities is horrible, but you might need to know that Japanese NICUs usually only allow the mother in, sometimes even the father is on restricted access, siblings and others never. (My son never met his brother till he was out of NICU - because I was sick my husband was allowed in but that was unusual.) However, in the case of foreigners many doctors are sympathetic and will negotiate for other family members or the father to have more access. Now, difficult though it will be, is the time to begin those negotiations…
My deepest sympathy to you both, and keep us up to date with what is happening.