Oh Tokyo Player… I was waiting for another update thread and just saw this one now.
Strength and peace to all three of you.
As I sit here crying my eyes out for you guys, I wish there was something I could say. When my youngest was diagnosed with autism, I felt the same way you did in that meeting- I know that things were said and discussed, but the moment I heard “that word” all I could hear was a rush of air and I was sucked straight down a deep hole. I didn’t crawl out for almost 6 months. Things are better but I know how it feels to have your heart torn out.
Ian, my love, what a gift God has given you- parents who cherish you. There is no higher love.
TokyoPlayer, **Ian **is a beautiful name, with a beautiful Chinese meaning. Thanks for keeping us updated. Glad for the tiny bit of better news. Thoughts and prayers for you, TW and Ian.
I hope everything goes well - of course it’d be great if Ian (great name, btw) was born healthy, but that’s most likely not going to happen. As it is, I hope he’s around to realize how much you two love him.
I can’t stop crying…no one should have to go through this.
TokyoPlayer, you and your family, are in my thoughts, and if you’re agreeable, my prayers.
Whatever happens, your son will be loved, and experiencing love is really the only thing that matters about life. You will give that to him in abundance.
TokyoPlayer, I am praying for you, your wife, and Ian. Please keep us updated if you can, and know that hundreds of prayers and good thoughts from the Doper community are surrounding all of you.
Thanks everyone again so much. I can’t tell you how much it means to have so many people pulling for us.
The good news is that things have calmed down. **TW’s ** labor stopped and they have discharged her. She only was dialated 0.5 cm so it will still take some time, and it will be much better for her (and me!) for her to do this at home.
My mother fill arrive from the States tomorrow. She’s a retired new born nursery nurse, with expensive experience with premature babies and all, so it will be really good to have her there when Ian comes along.
We’re scheduled to go in next Tuesday to induce labor if it doesn’t start on its own before that. By then she’ll will be in the 35th week, and so Ian’s lungs will have had a few more days to continue developing.
TW is handing things really well. My friend lives with this incredible drama queen (who was going to be pitted, had I not got too busy to write the damn thing), who gets upset for days at a time if the littlest thing doesn’t go her way. My sister and I were laughing about how much nicer it’s to be married to TW instead of Miss DQ.
We’re much more relaxed now and feeling better about the situation. The condition is the same, of course, and the prognosis isn’t any more optimistic, but we can deal with it.
As **TW ** have always said to each other, the most importants things are to do everything we can for Ian and also to support each other and grow closer and not apart. This is happening, which is the only thing we can do.
I’m not sure if I can report back before Tueday, so good luck to all and keep your fingers crossed.
She only was dialated 0.5 cm so it will still take some time, and it will be much better for her (and me!) for her to do this at home.