Maybe they shoulda considered that before having sex, huh? Without thinking of the offspring every minute? They CREATED those lives, and they are responsible for them until they reach legal majority, period.
I used to think like you, Lindsay. Cripes, if Melin was still around, she’d tell you about the times she went round and round with me on this topic.
I have two nephews and a niece. They are all living with my mother right now, primarily because my older sister is a selfish ass who cannot keep a job, who thinks she’s still 18, and who recently went through a bout of drug-related legal trouble. So, she left the kids with my mother and gave her power of attorney.
This is the second time she’s done this to her oldest (age 11). 6 years ago, she ran to Florida with a boyfriend and signed over custody to the boy’s father. She then fought a custody battle a few years later, and got shared custody.
Her middle child (age 4), she didn’t even tell the father she was pregnant. (This was the guy she ran to Florida with.) When he was born, she left that portion of the birth certificate blank. He’s never met his father.
Her daughter actually was born in the context of a marriage. Unfortunately, she drove her husband out because of her poor housekeeping skills and constant spending on beer and pot. Before she did, she got her husband to sign her middle son’s birth certificate as the legal father.
So, we have three kids living at my mother’s. My mom is 52, and lives with her boyfriend in a 2-bedroom house. The middle child sleeps on a rollaway in their room, and the other 2 share a room. They both work. They are paying $140 a week for a sitter. My sister is giving them no money. The oldest one’s father refuses to see him, and is not paying support. My sister’s ex-husband has not seen the two younger one’s since March, and also is paying nothing. My mother is trying to find the time and money to initiate some court actions against these fathers. In the meantime, they are trying to take care of these kids on very little money, kids who have been put through an emotional wringer.
They are all sweet, smart kids. The oldest is so confused, having been dumped by his mother twice in 6 years, and neglected and abused mentally by his father. The middle one tells people his father is dead. The youngest is, mercifully, too young to understand too much.
The parents deserve to live without having to think of the offpsring? Fuck the parents. Fuck my sister, and fuck the two good-for-nothing fathers. They can get out of their selfish fucking heads, and meet their responsibilities. What did these kids do to deserve this treatment? Not a goddamned thing.