Cool my jets? Unlikely. Whether she really wishes it or not is immaterial. I will not cool my jets until we collectively stop imagining that having an autistic child is some sort of curse inflicted upon parents. People don’t really mean it when they say they hope Jerry Sandusky gets raped in prison, but this statement is underwritten by a belief that it is would be real and much deserved punishment.
When you say you hope that parents end up with an autistic child but backpedal because you really don’t wish it on the kid, you’re showing that you think autism really is a sort of punishment visited on parents where the kid is just collateral damage. That belief yields parents who never see the inside of a jail for murdering their autistic children because actually caring for them is such a curse and who wouldn’t crack under the strain.
If autism is a punishment, it’s for autistics who have to live in a society where, deep down, people don’t value them as human beings. Deep down, people just pity them, viewing them as albatrosses around their poor parents’ necks.
When that stops, the jets cool.