Wow I really feel for you, even though I never met you. Met OMAR LITTLE has given sound advice in a nutshell.
I also wonder whether it is those with are single without a spouse or includes those who are not married but are in relationships. I doubt it includes the latter. As long as one has companion, a healthy relationship I don’t see any difference with a married person except for a marriage certificate.
Plus research needs to go deeper and see what is causing the earlier deaths on average among never married men? We know smoking kills, well how so? By causing lung cancer, other cancers, stroke, heart disease, etc etc. SO HOW is being single over a lifetime exactly killing these men?
Every time I see any article mentioning this, is seems to be implied (but not overtly stated) that such people (specifically, older people living alone) are lonely and depressed, and the stress of this kills people earlier.
I have another hypothesis: Occasionally people have sudden, abrupt life-threatening things happen (accidents or medical emergencies). People who live with someone (typically, a spouse) commonly are found before it’s too late and whisked to a hospital where they get treatment. OTOH, people who live alone and have a life-threatening event (e.g., falling and breaking a bone; stroke or other medical emergency) are often not found until the next time the rent is due and the landlord comes knocking.
The statistic is commonly given that older people living alone have a reduced life-expectancy, the reduction usually being given as some small number of months. That doesn’t seem to be obviously significant. Of course, it’s an overall average. I think it’s probably skewed by the relatively small number of people who die many years before their time because of emergencies, in contrast with the married older people who would not have died of those emergencies.
My next door neighbor, an older female living alone, recently had such an event in the middle of the night. (An aneurysm, according to neighborhood gossip.) Her part-time care-giver dropped by and found her about 10:00 a.m. – If not for that, nobody might have noticed until the first week in July when the manager came looking for the rent. Maybe not even then, if the rent is getting paid directly and automatically by some agency. The story I’m hearing is that she is going to be more-or-less okay after some rehab.
Why can’t you get the oxytocin from self love? What if it’s really good porn?
In females, celibacy correlates with higher rates of breast cancer (probably pregnancy-related diminished estrogen decreasing breast CA) and lower rates of cervical cancer (almost certainly HPV exposure).
Interesting, the last one makes sense because people who never have sex obviously will not have HPV, hence lower rates of cervical cancer.
This made me remember Pope Paul VI having prostate surgery in 1967. I’ve always assumed it was due to his celibacy, so I’ve made it a point to do all that I can do personally to avoid developing my own prostate problems.