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I might be changing jobs in a few months, and the new job will be one where it is possible and preferable for me to work 2nd or 3rd shift. I’ve never done that before, though I did have a couple of semesters in college where I had only night courses.
Anyone with experience, can you tell me how it went for you? Did you go to work first thing in the “morning” and then come home and live your life, or did you go to work last thing, come home and go to bed? Did you live with anyone? Did they switch schedules to match yours? If not, did you ever see your loved ones?
Any and all info would be great.
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Right now I am working an off schedule, though I like it. I have worked straight second shifts, straight third shifts and right now I am working a very odd second shift with 2 days working days [mon, thur and fri are 11am to 8 pm, and sat sun are 8 am -5 pm, with tues wed being my weekend] mrAru works 8am to whenever he shows up at home, mon-fri.
Over the years together, I will admit to being in the unusual circumstance of being a navy family, so I have had periods of mrAru vanishing underwater for varying amounts of time, so I just schedule to suit myself.
When working straight thirds [11pm to 8 am] I wake up and give myself enough time to get breakfast and go to work, and stay up for 4 or 5 hours after I get off work. I find that is the best way to not fall asleep in the middle of the night shift, after all most people get uip in the morning with a minimal amount of time before leaving, and stay awake after they get home. I found that it was more disruptive trying to sleep in the early part of the day [assholes making noise, people a tthe door, friends trying to get you to do stuff because you are home all day …sigh]
When working seconds [any shift that starts noonish and ends eveningish] just forget having a social life on any day other than your days off. Make friends with your tivo/vcr if you are hooked on any shows on TV at all. Blockbuster and cable tv are your best friends. Again, I tend to sleep until I have to get breakfast and go to work and stay up after I get home, again for the same reasons. MMORPGs online are also your friends and a great social activity becaus ethere is usually someone on 24 hours a day.
As to mrAru, as I said, being military is a very different lifestyle and set of expectations - he was missing more than he was home for much of the past 15 years. (shrug) We are both the solitary stay at home types, so for us it worked then and works now. We sleep together, he needs less sleep than I do so I just sleep in for an extra hour or 2 in teh morning, and he putters on weekends around the house when I am at work on whatever is on his HoneyDo list and on my tues/wed off I run any errands we need, grocery shop and the like. It works out.
I think most couples could actually benefit from less contact, People can very easily get on each others nerves if they are always together. People need ‘down’ time and privacy, and different schedules are great for that. We still have a fair amount of good quality time together =)