If one day I figure out that the reason I keep goofing off at work is because I subconsciously think I am taking advantage of my wife since she does more chores around the house than I do, will I suddenly be more productive at work if I resolve my relationship with my wife? It seems sorta goofy, doesn’t it? That’s how they always show it in the movies, at least.
What? Doing less work at your day job somehow is a response to your wife doing more of the work around the house?
Anyway, from what I hear, people have Aha! moments in talk therapy, but actually making the changes inspired by the moment takes time.
On the flip side, people who have come a long way, slowly, in prison or rehab frequently revert in a flash if they fall back into the wrong environment.
Changing your view of yourself or your behavior can come in a very poignant and startling moment. Changing your life habits is generally a more time consuming effort.
Learning that you are tentative, and avoid decisions because your parents always criticized your choices can be a startlingly revealing bit of self-knowledge. Learning how to make decisions and be assertive is a different experience. Finding out that decisive and assertive doesn’t mean right and effective is another experience as well.
Living a life is a complicated task. Changing the way you have learned to live one, half way through it, is a very difficult process. Inspiration is nice. It won’t replace effort, and experience.
Tris
Been there, done that. Did it again. Did it some more. Keep on doing it.