The thread title, ‘Are there any members of the gay community that are opposed to legalizing marriage?’ could be subtitled, ‘Open Invitation To Bring A Pitting Down On Yer Ass’.
Within the GLBT community, when one voices the opinion that the same-sex marriage debate should be put on hold for a while is just asking for trouble. You either get called names like ‘Self-hating, Aunt Tom’ and people assume you’re a Log Cabin fundamentalist.
In a perfect world, equality would reign supreme. Same-sex couples would have the same right to suffer in the binds of matrimony as their hetero counterparts. But this isn’t a perfect world; the majority of people are opposed to gay marriage. SSM opponents aren’t ignorant. They’re not hate filled. They’re not even wrong. They just have a differing opinion with a different set of values.
Why do I think the same-sex marriage debate should be put on hold?
Putting aside the fact I personally never considered it an important issue to begin with, in my opinion the SSM debate has a whole lot less to do with civl rights and more to do with economic interests. Is that necessarilly a bad thing? No. People are free to co-habitate and enter into civil union agreements. Why this need to have it state sanctioned? I’ll be the first to admit civil unions and state sanctioned marriages aren’t exactly the same - but last time I checked, same-sex relationships are a little different than straight ones.
I don’t see the similarity between the civil rights struggle in the 60’s and today’s SSM battle. Today, no one in the GLBT community is being deprived of basic human rights. You want the right to marry? Fine, be my guest. But don’t try to legislatively/judicially force people to accept that which they are morally opposed to.