Well this is right up my alley folks. I am a server. Most of what I have read in the thread so far is what many servers think. I have seen servers get a table of blacks that will say “I’m not getting a tip off that table”. Why? Well I am not sure what their thinking is on it. But I think it is because they have had bad tips off of other black folks and have based their entire thinking on that.
But it isn’t just black folks that are getting a bad rap. You will also get those servers that hate to work on Sundays, because they think that churchgoers don’t tip. “They believe in giving to God, but to hell with the server” (heard this one just last Sunday). You will also find servers that think that Indians don’t tip either. Why? “Well since the white men took all their land they don’t feel they owe society anything and certainly not a tip to a server”. As for Asians and other foreigners, you will get a server that will think they don’t know how to tell me their order, how are they going to know how to tip? The list could go on and on, teenagers, rednecks, elderly, smokers, etc. I can’t give cites. This is just the things that I have heard out of the mouths of servers.
This is NOT how I feel though!!! I don’t look at you when you come into eat and make judgements against you based on anything. Not the way you are dressed, not the way you talk, not the color of skin, not anything. IMHO, you can’t ever tell what someone is going to tip. I have seen rich folks with diamond rings big enough to choke a horse rack up a $100 bill and leave without tipping. I have also seen folks come in that looked like you might need to buy their meal, leave a substantial tip. You just can’t tell.
I feel attitude has alot to do with it. I work every table like I’m going to get a big tip. If I’m mad about the last table that left me zero. Then I could carry that on to your dining experience and ruin it for you and thus ruin my chances of another tip. Yes, your tips is how I pay my bills. Does it make you mad when you bust your ass on a table, only to get no tip? You bet it does. I wouldn’t be human if it didn’t :D. Am I going to hold it against you the next time you come in? No. For crying out loud I’m serving groceries, not saving lives people. There’s no need to take note. I am here to do a job. That is to serve you and make your dining experience a good one and hopefully you’ll come back and ask for me.