So, *get *a driver’s license. If not, why not?
He can’t leave. What if someone calls?
Let me guess … a cell phone is the same as broadcasting your conversations to the whole world.
Oh, well what a relief! Fortunately, both of those things are within your control! :). So stop putzing around here and go do something.
No need to do something; he’s told us many times that he feels no need to anything about being overweight and essentially housebound. His idea of a good change is buying a new digital camera. He’s extremely happy with everything else about his life (weighing 155kg, no friends or social life, no job or job prospects, still living with his parents even though he’s middle-aged, etc.).
So don’t bother offtering him suggestions.
I do own a cell phone, it is a feature phone. But I am not permitted to have a smartphone.
My life is neither better nor worse then that of most Americans my age. It is very very different. If the price of freedom" is wasting myself on a job, then I do not need such freedom".
What would happen if you obtained one? Would you be grounded? But you already don’t leave the house? No allowance? I suppose that’s it?
I have Asperger’s Syndrome. Driving with Asperger’s Syndrome is an unreasonable risk.
Given that my parents support me I would not want to go against them. Besides, if I got a smartphone my Internet Addiction Syndrome would get much worse.
That wasn’t an answer to my question.
Unless you are independently wealthy, the price of being an adult is being able to care for yourself. This means earning money, which is to say getting a job. It is indescribably selfish to say that your sense of freedom entitles you to never work. There are jobs that you can do online and never leave the house.
I do not believe this is an accurate statement. Autism is a spectrum, but someone with high functioning autism ought to be able to learn to drive.
Have you ever studied the importance of flexibilty in life and functioning in society? I understand that it is uncomfortable, but it is a useful skill to cultivate.
Indeed I am happy not to work. But I am looking for friends and social life.
I am not into sports. I can not run. I can walk, but I do not walk much.
I do play runescape a lot.
Possibly someday I will have a job. I obey my parents and they provide well for me. It is a two sided agreement. They have never used physical force or abusive language on me even when I was a child.
Driving is dangerous.
I’d be happy not to work, but not if it meant that I was stuck living in my parents’ house and unable to afford more than one annual trip outside the house. And you claim to be seeing friends but reject, ignore or deflect any suggestion how to accomplish this.
I’m sure your parents are great, but something went wrong to leave you so dysfunctional and dependent.
I leave my house on average thrice a week – I go shopping and sometimes to the Library. I have been seeing my therapist once per three weeks recently.
I would be happy to be independent, but not at the expense of the Joy of Not Working.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
What is your plan for taking care of yourself when your parents are not able to do so?
It seems a good idea to start working on skills now that will allow you to survive later. Employment, cooking, transportation are all examples of things you will need to manage on your own.