I went to college with a woman who smelled like formaldehyde. She was from another country, and she didn’t shower for several weeks at a time, but I don’t know how that made her smell like formaldehyde. It’s a really specific and distinct smell; she didn’t smell like BO. She smelled exactly like formaldehyde. Her roommate was good friends with my roommate, and ended up staying in a sleeping bag on our floor for a while before she got the RA to move her.
It was to the point where the smell of formaldehyde lingered outside her door. We dropped hints that she should shower, but she wasn’t picking them up.
The RA sat her down, and finally told her outright that if she wants to get along in the US, she needs to understand some of our customs, and one of them is showering daily.
Well, she started showering a couple of times a week, but the smell had permeated her room by then, and she didn’t wash her clothes unless they had visible dirt, so she was wearing stuff from the “no shower for several weeks” period. She still reeked.
I have thought about this in subsequent years. It always sort of puzzled me that she smelled of formaldehyde, and not normal BO, and now I wonder if she had some kind of metabolic disorder, and even if she’d washed her clothes after each wearing, and showered twice a day, if she still would have ended up smelling like formaldehyde. I don’t know what metabolic disorder that would have been, though. I Googled once, and came up with nothing.
But it would have explained her behavior. If she knew she stank, and showering wouldn’t help, that would explain why she didn’t hop to it after the RA talked to her.
She withdrew after one semester. There are a lot of reasons she might have. There are some complicated language reasons that could have caused it, and I don’t know what her family’s financial situation was, how her grades were, her visa status, etc., but it could have been that Americans clearly couldn’t deal with her odor that might be due to a metabolic problem. Maybe in her country, people didn’t shower as often, so even if her odor wasn’t normal, it still blended a little better with the general odors of people, or maybe the metabolic disorder is common enough among people in her country that people don’t get to upset over it.
But yeah, people so malodorous that it bothers others-- I just assume that they either have an impaired sense of smell, or they have an odor they can’tr wash away somehow. I have been up close with homeless people, and while they aren’t fresh as a daisy, they don’t necessarily stink to high heaven, and you know they don’t bathe often, so when someone really, really stinks, so that you smell them coming, I really wonder if possibly they can’t help it.