I’m more surprised there are people not checking.
I checked on myself, out of curiosity. Not because I ever used the site, but because I have a not terribly uncommon first name/last name gmail account, and I get wrong emails all the time. It wouldn’t have surprised me too much if it had been used. Thankfully, it was not on the list.
I just started kind of dating someone, but I haven’t checked her, and I won’t. What would it matter?
What surprises me most is that people wouldn’t use a disposable email for something like this. Why in the world would anyone sign up with their own main email address for something so potentially incriminating when new email addresses are free and easy to get?
Huh? No, all they’d have to do is anonymously review the site and say it’s not legit. There can be single men on that site, so admitting you are a member, on its own, doesn’t say anything about fidelity, there’s not enough information. And what in the world do you mean, “couldn’t get a date”? These men DID think they got a date but were lied to by the very website that promises to make it happen. I see no shame in calling the business out for shady practices.
Nope. I’m in there, too. My wife wouldn’t care, or at least would have no claim for the moral high ground. I didn’t use it.
So i assume this is going to basically kill ashley madison ain’t it?
I’d assume so, especially because it turns out that they didn’t delete content even after people paid them to.
I checked yesterday and none of our addresses were used. Now I signed up and subsequently deleted a profile on AM about a week ago, so anyone who has signed up since then won’t show. Something to consider.
Then I don’t know why men using it didn’t complain about it being a scam.
Actually, I don’t know that they haven’t …
I was surprised one of my emails didn’t show up; at least half a dozen people have used it, either incorrectly or illicitly, over the years.
BBC TV just said Ashley Madison is offering a $380,000 reward for information on the hackers.
I thought this was interesting: Almost None of the Women in the Ashley Madison Database Ever Used the Site. A Gizmodo writer did an analysis of the data, and of the few women who signed up, very few actually used it and checked messages or replied to any. So most female profiles were fake, and of the ones made my real women, most weren’t ever used.
Wow. Out of 5.5 million supposed women on the site, tens of thousands are transparently obvious fakes, with internal data giving them addresses like “100@ashleymadison.com” and a 127.0.0.1 IP address. There’s only evidence for about 10,000 women who actually interacted with the site by checking their inbox or sending messages, and another 12,000 who paid to have their information “deleted”.
(No kidding, the database has a “paid delete” flag on a couple hundred thousand records. I think I can hear the lawyers from here, sharpening their teeth while humming “class action!” to themselves.)
The tens of millions of men on the site were communicating with someone, but pretty much none of them were talking to women with normal profiles…
So to go back to the OP’s question, there’s pretty much no reason at all for anyone to check whether their wife was on the site.
You just string people along. Get them to buy your “digital roses” or whatever to show your affection (and money), they supposedly had paid female posters who could respond to messages, and you just keep from closing the deal. The men don’t know its a scam versus some woman just not putting out. I believe you had to pay to respond to requests and stuff so you could milk money out of someone for a while and give him enough interaction to think that it’s legit, he just didn’t find a connection.
Breaking news just now on BBC TV said the Ashley Madison chief executive was leaving the company.
To spend more time with his family? :rolleyes:
That was my experience
Not checking.