Managed to find one when I’m not making a goofy face, back in 2002:
This is now:
(more or less clean shaven, an oddity for me!)
(this site is my website, hosting my web projects and some friends’ ones, in french: archive of french trans actions, website for gay ftms and the men who love them, a trans/queer radio)
I hesitated, because I’m not fond the tradition of putting before/after pics of transfolks in magazines or tv shows and such, but I feel this thread is a bit different.
I always looked masculine since I was a kid, this is not true for all FTM folks though.
I like boys, including fellow FtMs, whether they’re taking testosterone or not, have had any surgeries or not. (of course I’m not attracted to all men and all trans men whatever they look like)
waves hello I see you from time to time in livejournal.
I would put it like that: with testosterone, 99% of trans men will look male enough for most people not to think they’re anything other than non-trans in nearly all settings.
But the standards are different for women, their bodies are more scrutinized in society, and if a woman ends up being “too tall” or with a heavy forehead, strong chin/jaw/hands or deep eye sockets, it’s gonna ping people’s radar, whether she’s really transsexual or not after ll. Some women have already end up in jail with men because of police’s assumption about how “male” they were looking. ( http://nodesignation.wordpress.com/2007/08/27/ciswoman-recieves-transphobic-prison-treatment/ and http://blogs.villagevoice.com/runninscared/archives/2009/10/woman_housed_wi.php , though for this second cite, I base my opinion on the belief that if someone had female papers and were looking like your average woman, no policeman would have think she were a male and put her with men.)
But some short dude with a beard, wide hips and small hands? Unless you’re in queer city, where people know FTMs exist, no one will give you a second look. I live in some small village and I bet most folks wouldn’t imagine a sole second that someone who is transsexual would live there, let alone a FTM transsexual. Heck, me and my lover are seen as a gay couple and as far as I know, there is no other known gay folks in a 30 miles radius.
I remember, after some trans action, spending a whole afternoon with three guys, who I all thought to be FTM. As the hours passed, turned out only one of them was ftm, one of the guy was a slighty femmy bisexual guy and the other one a just-at-the-beginning-of-her-coming-out trans woman. But we were all the same height and not macho highly masculine guys, so… :smack:
I assumed that, even though I know plenty of trans men who are 6’ tall or with narrow hips and large hands.
I really don’t know…my parents were supportive but I was always a very mature kid, deep in books, doing well at school you know? Nearly all my friends were online friends and for the most part didn’t know I was trans. And concerning my school/university friends, since we were the same age I didn’t pick up from them a “maybe you’re too young” vibe.
I went to see my psychiatrist when I was 18 but, even though he told me during our first session he had not doubt I was transsexual, he had a policy of seeing people 2 years at least before okaying for hormones, so I had to wait (I didn’t know at the time I could have simply found another psychiatrist). It was a sad circle: after two years I would see him and break down and cry because I wanted to transition, and he would say I wasn’t stable enough because of that, and this would make me feel even more depressed and I would cry even more the next time, argh! It dragged on like that for nearly a year.
To be honest, I don’t think the surgeon who did my top surgery cared at all about my age, mostly about my money and doing a good job.
In france you can go to gender teams in some of the big cities, and there there is usually a cut off age below which they won’t operate on you or give you hormones.
In gender teams you can’t chose your doctors or surgeons, but all surgeries are funded by the health system, because they operate you in public hospitals. Being gay in your target sex is not viewed as a good sign so I decided from the beginning to go private.