Couple of thoughts…
I agree that gays and lesbians should come out of the closet. But in the atmosphere surrounding gays today (DOMA, “don’t ask, don’t tell”, those blasted full-page ads last summer saying “gays can convert and be loved by God again”, Matthew Shepard, Billy Jack Gaither, and that fellow from Richmond) coming out of the closet is a real step, not just saying you’re comfortable with who you are but that you’re willing to actively fight to defend yourself. Many people just aren’t up to that, at least at some point in their lives.
Personally, I wouldn’t agree with matt_mcl’s statement about “straight guys” not being attractive. I’m straight; I’ve experimented and found what I like. But even before I did that, and even now, I get approached by gay men and hit on. It’s no big deal! I’m flattered. The point is, though, that they don’t know I’m straight, nor do I know they’re gay, at least until things come to that point. So maybe I’m a living refutation of matt’s statement, I don’t know.
Just my 0.02…
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