Have you asked to look at pictures of the scarring? I know they need to warn you of the possible consequences, but my friend had a rather large mole removed from his forehead, and unless you know what to look for, you really can’t tell. It’s a diamond shaped area of slightly shinier skin(the scar tissue). If he was a woman, he could probably do some magic with some make up to cover it up and make it completely invisible. shrug Just saying the scarring might not be as bad as you fear. Also as a caveat, he’s a guy and so I know I don’t look at him like I would a girl.
I did. (Well, one Witch, anyways…)
Why not go for variety? Switch around from a mole to a bat to a mouse to a . . .
I am a “curvy”, “attractive” woman and I once had a mole right along side my nose. It was maybe slightly larger than a pencil eraser and I paid it little attention as it had always been a part of my face and me. In my early 30’s I made the decision to have it removed simply because I was concerned that it could become cancerous (whether this was any truth to the cancer idea, I do not know). At the time I had a friend who would occasionally say things like “How can you stand that thing on your face??” (her editor died when she was born :)). Anyway, I had it removed. A few months later she visited, I had not told her about the removal of the abomination from my face and was curious to see her reaction. We spent 3 hrs together and at the last of it I asked her if she noticed anything different about me. She said NO. I pointed out that the mole had been removed and she was dumb-founded. “I always thought that thing was hideous, how could I have not noticed??”
My point: She loved me and in the end the mole did not matter. NO one noticed, really until I pointed it out. If someone is worthy of your attention you accept them WARTS (or moles)AND ALL. Once you know her, perhaps it won’t matter anymore, and that is how it should be. Drag yourself out of the shallows and hit the deep water-there are many delights to be found there~~~!
I would figure if one could afford the expense of getting an entire arm tattooed, one could afford getting Pustulio removed from one’s face.
She might have been rolling in money at one point, when she got her sleeve. Then she lost her job, and developed a wart. Or possibly she just wanted the tattoos more than she wanted to the Lump removed.
Seems to me that a tatoo sleeve and a nose wart go well together, given that IMHO both are not attractive.
Nah, definitely not. I can picture your mole, but it does NOT look like a wart and it’s not gross. Just a part of your pretty face. 
BoBettie said:
I haven’t seen you, so I can’t comment on your specific case. However, in general, people do react with “WTF with that mole?” Depending on size, coloring, bumpiness, hairiness, etc as to how WTF it is. A small dot doesn’t register much, a large protruding hairy bump is going to get lots of Ack.
Most people are considerate enough not to make a deal about it, to pretend it isn’t there, to try not to be obvious staring. And yes, people can get used to it being there. But it will still catch their attention from time to time.
A young lady used to work in my office, she was attractive and pleasant. She also had a couple of moles on her upper lip. I think the conversation came up one time in the course of about 3 years working together, and she commented similar remarks about being used to it as part of her face and it didn’t bother her. I can truthfully say that it was visibly eye-catching and mildly detracting from her looks. Not enough that would have kept me from dating her (she had a steady boyfriend), but enough that it registered on my consciousness.
Abboriginal said:
Well, I won’t argue how much she was your friend, but I think there’s something more to it. It’s something of a “conspicuous in its presence, invisible in its absence” kind of thing. I don’t have any evidence to back this up, but it is my feeling that the absence doesn’t register nearly as much as the presence, because it is a form of expectation. It’s what we humans do - we observe the unusual, the things that are different. They catch our attention and make us puzzle over them. That’s why movies are able to mock that syndrome with “moley moley mole” or whatever - it is a natural reaction we all recognize in ourselves. Movies can just get away with being rude about it the way we fear we would be.
How many times have you had some change you think is conspicious and not receive any comments, or eventually one person recognize that something is different?
I had a pair of glasses for, like, 5 years. Same frames, same lenses. They were a brown frame, and the lenses were getting bad. The non-glare coating was wearing off, which made them reflect light from odd angles to other people watching me. People would offer/suggest I clean my lenses because “they are filthy”. No, they just look that way because the film is coming off. I finally went to the eye doctor, checked my eyes again, and got a new pair of glasses. They are fairly similar in shape, but they are more silvery and bright, and the lenses are clean and non-glare again. Not a single person said a thing about it to me, including the guy who had previously commented “you should replace those glasses because the effect from the lenses is driving me nuts”. How did he not notice?
I’m convinced it’s psychological and inherent. We see the thing that “sticks out” and it repeatedly catches our awareness, and that is why it bugs us. When it goes away, we don’t react to it because it is no longer sticking out and catching our attention. It is much harder to see that something is no longer distracting us than to see something that is distracting us.
That was the mole talking…
Warts and other skin growths can be highly vascular, meaning really heavy bleeding during removal. Perhaps she would need a more invasive proceedure to control bleeding (cha-CHING!). How affordable something is is relative. She’s working at a coffee shop so Im betting she’s not making much more than minimum wage. It can be brutal trying to save for something when your not sure if you can buy food, pay the electric bill, or rent.
Lots of us wish we could do what it takes to look better, but, sometimes we have other priorities.
Hey, being a zombie, she’s got worse problems than a wart on her nose.
I used to have a big squishy mole on the back of my neck, right at the hairline, and I used to hit it with my comb/brush too. Then one time I had a sore neck and was wearing one of those moist-heat “rice packs” on it quite a bit, which irritated it enough that I had to go to the doctor. He snipped it off (with local anesthetic) and did a biopsy (clean) and that was the end of that. Covered by insurance. I think there’s a scar back there, but who cares?
(“I’m Moley Russell’s wart. No I’m not. I’m her tumor. Her growth.” Heh heh.)
I had a couple of raised moles that were right where a bra strap hit them on a regular basis. The doctor snipped them, and while he was at it, snipped some others that he said “looked like trouble”. The biopsies came back clean. And I’m happier without my moles.
A: Someone is going to love her, warts and all.
(And if the OP can’t get past it, it won’t be him.)
Where’s Whack-A-Mole when you need him?
Hey me too. Except it was one huge mole and I had it removed when I was about 14, about the time I started wearing a bra. That sucker was huge! The doctor showed it to me after he cut it out. It looked like an ice-cream cone. :eek: And I have had a big nasty scar on my back ever since, along with scars from the stitches it took to close the wound. It wouldn’t look very pretty on my face; since it’s my back, who cares?
No, it’s not.
Tell her you’re a rather brilliant surgeon. Perhaps you can help you with that [del]hump[/del] wart. As for all of you who hate on the tattoo sleeves, that just means more hot women for me.
This seems dangerously close to threads hitting. The topic isn’t her tat.