I don’t think that I’ve ever chimed in on a thread which you created or even participated in, but I’ve read quite a few of them over these years. I think that the SDMB would be greatly diminished without your presence. As World Eater said earlier, take break if it’ll help you out. The world is full of jerks and assholes, and it’s a shame that they’ve taken notice of you lately. Fortunately, I think that you’ll see that they’ll find another bright and shiny object that’ll draw their attention away. Hang in there.
BTW, I actually got your “Mrs. Madrigal” reference in your last post. One of my favorite high school memories is playing Maitland in “The Chalk Garden”. My one and only experience on stage, but it was really incredible. See? You brightened my day without even trying!
I think Eve should take time away from the board, or even leave it entirely. She’s got a huge amount of stress UIRL, and the board has stopped being a refuge, but yet another source of stress with Eve having to defend and discuss a part of her life that happened back in the Carter administration. It 's tiresome to spend your life being an education to other people. Why can’t she just be free to be herself and discuss books, and dissect TV shows, and snark about celebrities, instead of having one small aspect of her life hang over her head every minute that she’s here?
She should do what she needs to do, period. People asking her to stay are being selfish.
Well, of course I am; I don’t want to lose her. But I was under the impression that besides the incidents that she mentioned she otherwise enjoyed The Dope, if that is not the case then yes, she’s not tied here. I just tried to express to her that despite all the crap that she’s got from some people not everybody is like that, that’s not how I see her. If she likes been in the company of people that DO appreciate her then The Dope is as good a place as any. I just hope that she doesn’t leave, it’ll be our loss.
If asking a beloved, witty, sardonic, well-spoken, intelligent poster to ignore the blatherings of a few dimwits and listen to her legions of fans, then dammit, I will be selfish.
Eve, I don’t know what brought this on. I always feel like I’ve had a brush with royalty when you quote me or respond to a thread I’ve started.
Take a break if you need to. But please, don’t abandon us all together. The boards will be a little bit colder if you do.
Dammit! My mistake. I was thinking of the “Miss Madrigal” character in The Chalk Garden . I googled “Mrs. Madrigal” and found another character which is referenced in Tales Of The City . Never read the books or had a chance to watch the series. My bad.
I can’t think of what to say. This is probably as good a time as any to mention that you’re the one and only Doper on the boards who consistently comes across as not just a woman but a lady. The SDMB would be so much less without your remarkable personality.
Another Eve fan chiming in. (Note to self if I ever get pearls, only strands in odd numbers.)
Of course you must stay or go as suits you best. But if you are going, I want to express my appreciation for your knowledge, your sense of humor, and your grace. Thank you for the time you’ve spent enriching this board.
I have greatly enjoyed your time on the SDMB. I have no idea what brought this on, and it really isn’t any of my bisuness. I doubt anything I could say would change your mind.
I daresay it was Eve who shared about 40% of the content that I find immediately interesting and edifying upon reading, i.e., without growing into it. I enjoy the culture and style she brings—I even learned the em dash from her.
All other things aside, I love it if you didn’t leave.
gobear, of course if she needs to, Eve should take time off. But perhaps we’re saying-hey, you shouldn’t feel that you have to leave, because you DO have friends here who would miss you.
Well, I too, would miss you and your black, furry muff if you left, Eve.
I hope you’ll only take a break (if you feel you need to), but then come back.
I understand and I’d miss her participation, too. (Although I’m letting my membership lapse come April also.) It’s just sometimes, you have to put another person’s good above your own desires. She’s one of the smartest, wittiest people here, but I’d rather have her spend time where she’ll be happy. The board is a lot less fun than it used to be, especially if the issue of one’s sexuality us brought up constantly.
I participate on other message boards here and there, where it is known that I’m gay, yet this is the ONLY board where it’s thrown in my face as a weapon in a debate (the usual "how can YOU, as a gay man, say. . . ). The non-trans, non-gay Dopers don’t have to endure that sort of thing. I completely see Eve’'s POV.
Eve is and has always been a lady and a delight. And I wish you all the best, regardless of your decision. You do what you need to do (of course you would anyway, doubtless, but there you are).
That’s not to say we all won’t be the poorer for her absence, however long…
Eve, do what you must do. Think of yourself for a while. Buy a jacuzzi [sp?] invite some friends, drink lots of delicious cocktails, get a massage and relaxxxxxxx. But please come back here when you’ve rested.
I admire you like hell. Your posts are intelligent, insightful and so very funny. And I believe you’re a great person.
