What with the Board crashing and “people coming and going so quickly here,” I doubt anyone noticed my absence—which was precipitated by a handful of Nosey Parkers gossiping and e’ing behind my back, throwing me into a veritable paranoid tizzy.
“Oh, for goodness sake, stop being such a drama queen and come back,” my In-Real-Life Doper friends have told me. “No one CARES.” Well, of course, I AM a drama queen, but just this once, I had a reason. I decided I did want to come back—I like and miss most of you, and flatter myself that some of you harbor a fondness for me as well. Purely platonic, of course.
But I wanted to clear the air and put all this nonsense behind me. So here’s the story: a few Dopers discovered that I’d had a sex change a looooong time ago (back during the McKinley administration). OK, this is pretty juicy gossip, I will admit. Word spread behind my back for more than a year, before one or two Dopers were gentlemanly enough to tell me that I was the subject of backstairs tittle-tattle.
I’ve certainly never been ashamed of my past and have never denied it—but, since I am not anonymous on the SDMB (very naive and foolish of me, I now realize), I saw no need to open myself to the mischief this could cause me.
So, that’s that—I will be happy to answer any non-mortifying questions you may have, keeping in mind that I am not only a lady, but was raised to be a gentleman.
Oh . . . And for those of you new to the Board who have no idea who the hell I am . . . Umm, “hi.”
The sun is shining, the birds are tweeting and Eve has rejoined us! All is right with the World.
Actually, it’s just “righter”. For everything to be “right”, I’d need one of those brownie dessert things. You know? With the brownie on the bottom, then there’s ice cream and hot fudge sauce, then whipped cream and a cherry? Yeah, I sure could use one of them.
And someone to get the stupid birds to shut up so I can take a nap without all the derned tweet tweet tweet-ing.
First of all, Welcome Back, Eve! I most certainly did notice your absence and thought about starting a thread, asking where you were because I miss seeing you around this joint.
Secondly, I’ve known for ages about your sex change, hon, and couldn’t care less. Actually, I read a wonderful article that you wrote about it, which is published online. I imagine people with questions might find it very enlightening, but I wouldn’t dream of posting a link without your permission.
I’m just damn glad you’re back. You add a touch of class to the place and you have been missed.
Seriously - It’s about time you got yourself back here. Somebody has to bring some decorum and taste to this board. And Lord knows, it ain’t gonna be me.
:buuuuuuuuuurrrrrp:
Go Eve! Not everyone is dying to share the intimacies of their lives on the internet, and no one should “have” to. You are you and that’s all anybody has to know. But I also think that disclosing your history has the potential to truly change how people think about identity and gender, to dispel stigma, to build tolerance. Most people probably don’t know any TS people (or aren’t aware of them). For people to get to know you and love you first and then have you come out - it’s an important step. Thanks for having the courage to trust us. - Jill
I knew this new board was missing something! It’s complete now! (And she managed to get a classic movie reference in the thread title! Sigh!) OK, enough exclamation points for one post…welcome back, Eve.
Thank God Eve is back! These high heels and evening gown are damned uncomfortable. Here Eve, take 'em, it’s time for a pro to handle this kind of stuff.
Actually, Uke, I think Cavalcade (which features a scene on the Titanic) took Best Picture for 1933. I recall this because Goldner and Turner titled a chapter of their book The Making of King Kong “Remember Cavalcade?”, because that film , in their minds, stole the Oscar from 1933’s Big Monster film.
Thanks, all . . . Shayna, that article is no longer online. It was posted w/o my knowledge or permission, and I gave the publisher holy hell about it. I had written it for a small-circulation book years ago, when the internet was still gasoline-powered. Had they ASKED me, I would have rewritten the article with less personal info about me and my family, for online publication. But nooo . . . They just slapped it onto the internet to cause all kinds of havoc for me, including being outed on the SDMB w/o my knowlege.
Ike, I still say “Red Dust” should have at least been nominated in '32, and Joan Crawford was gypped for being overlooked in “Rain!”
Eve,
I’ve posted this on a few threads about “Where are you from?” but we’ve never caught up.
Another Main Liner here, that is all.
Growing up on the Main Line, a pretty conservative area must’ve been difficult for you, considering your gender issues. You have my utmost respect for deciding to do what was in your heart. Bravo!
If this is not too personal, at what age did you begin to feel that you were not a male inside and wanted the outside to reflect that? The reason I ask this is that I am an elementary teacher, and several times in my career, I’ve seen students who seem to be more comfortable demonstrating “typical” traits of the opposite sex. Of course, I have no idea what that actually means, and if it means anything at all. I just find it interesting that generally, in early elementary school, these children fit in just fine in the opposite sex social structure. It’s only in late elementary school, that they start to stygmatized about it.
