So when someone offers or gives you something you don’t want, not just in a restaurant but anywhere in real life, what do you say to them? If you can’t even use the standard forms of courtesy, what do you do?
Ed Zotti, I think some of us would be inclned to forgive much if you guys would follow the model of that other board and ban this asshole (and other idiotic non-contributing oxygen-suckers like her).
Springs, you’re just not worth the trouble anymore.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! You got the Coke before you even had the chance to ask for it, but you think you would have gotten it FASTER if he had stopped by to ask first! HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! You’re such a fucking idiot! I hope to Crom that you haven’t bred.
I would have gotten it faster, because he filled a glass with dr. pepper and ice. Then, he came to my table for nothing. Then, he had to go back and dump out the wasted dr. pepper with ice. Then, he had to fill another glass with coke with ice. Then, he had to come back to my table to give me what I really wanted, which was a coke. So don’t call me an idiot when you need to look in the mirror as to HOW LONG it takes to fix (I shouldn’t say a mistake, because this is intentional to do such a thing), which I will call it a wrong task I guess you can call it. I am not an idiot, because I know that it takes LONGER to fix an incorrectly made item than it does to come to get the order from the customer to get the order correct that they wanted. Coming to my table to find out first IS FASTER in this situation where he got me the wrong drink, that’s a FACT!
NOT THE SAME THING BY A LONG SHOT! When someone gives you something you don’t want, it is something you are in acquaintance with at the very least such as a co-worker or a friend.
Normally, strangers don’t give you things in general. The ones that do, I am not PAYING for their services, so it doesn’t have to be what I personally want things to be like. When I PAY for a service, I should get the service I am supposed to get at a restaurant.
When strangers try to help you that maybe didn’t help, that’s different, because it’s not a service that the customer is PAYING for. It’s also not the same, because the server is wasting time getting a wrong drink or unwanted drink vs. some stranger trying to help you let’s say fix something, but they don’t know how, which I am NOT PAYING them if they waste my time. I am PAYING the server though. GET THE DIFFERENCE? If you want payment, be CONSIDERATE to NOT INTENTIONALLY WASTE MY TIME! That’s INTENTIONAL to ASSUME ANYTHING in the customer’s dining experience!
It’s kind of like if at a typical fast food restaurant, which the cashier gives you a fork and knife to-go which you know you will eat at home, so you say “no thank you”, which they may have wasted your time while you saw them hunt for the boxes with the plastic utensils. While that is wasting my time, I am NOT PAYING for the SERVICE, so I shouldn’t expect them to not waste my time.
When you are paying MONEY for someone to serve you through a TIP, don’t you think you should be able to HAVE A CHANCE to place your own ORDER for what you want?
Your comparison is NOT the same, because at restaurants, CUSTOMERS DO THEIR OWN ORDERING! They get a MENU for a REASON! WHY do we get a menu then if WE don’t get to pick and choose what we want?
I am paying my server to serve ME, NOT TO ASSUME THINGS! I am paying them to get what I want, NOT what THEY want to give me or ASSUME that’s what I want by playing the mind reader game.
If someone gives me something I didn’t want under normal circumstances(not paying for services usually through a tip), I am NOT PAYING them for their services. When you pay a server though, shouldn’t you get what YOU want out of the service and not get ANY ASSUMPTIONS? You server is at YOUR BECK AND CALL as to what you want or don’t want. Your server is NOT there to give you what THEY CHOOSE OR THINK that’s what you want. We are paying for service here. This is not someone just trying to help. Not everyone wants someone’s help and when it’s wasting someone’s time when the service is being paid for, it’s VERY DIFFERENT than someone wasting my time when I am NOT PAYING for the service. GET WHAT I AM SAYING?
YOU should be banned for calling people names. I got fussed for it, so YOU should to, it’s ONLY FAIR!
Tell me HOW am I being an “ASSHOLE” just because I want to be able to place my own order for myself? WHY does that mean I am such a bad person? Dining out is supposed to be where the CUSTOMER ONLY gets to say what they want. The server stands there and writes down what the customer says. That is how it is supposed to go.
I agree. I’m just here for the entertainment value now.
I’ve been lurking this thread and had to comment on how even the OP, who lost their internet connection on page 2 then revisited to catch up on page 8, decided to abandon the Springs1 trainwreck altogether. ;o)
Personally, I am a large tipper for three reasons. 1.) I know it garners me some preferential treatment at the places I frequent. 2.) I realize how hard all the serving and kitchen staff, and 3.) I know they are paid a low base salary + tips.
That said, I have had to withold or lower a gratuity on a few occasions but only when I receive extremely bad service, not when they forget to refill my coffee or such nonsense but when there is a glaring case of incompetence or neglect. Believe me the dissatisfaction is already well established before the bill arrives.
BTW any problems with the food and its preparation should be taken up with the restaurant and its manager/owner and is not the fault of the server. Although, how the server handles the situation may affect my gratuity.
OK. my 2 cents, carry on…
Well, THE THING IS, it’s hard for us to understand precisely what you’re SAYING BECAUSE YOU INEXPLICABLY CAPITALIZE RANDOM WORDS and phrases, and rant angrily ABOUT something that doesn’t inconvenience you. You seem to have A GIGANTIC BUG UP YOUR ASS about something that doesn’t put you out, and you’re telling us IN THE MOST irritating way possible as well as using stupid, illiterate phrases like “100% FOR SURE” and failing to understand that different restaurants HAVE DIFFERENT POLICIES AND WORK INSTRUCTIONS, which is why some places are fast on free refills AND SOME ARE NOT.
By the way, do you also bitch and whine when the restaurant GIVES YOU FREE MINTS OR CANDIES WITH THE BILL? Because you didn’t order those.
How long does it take to code a post like that? I mean, I have a hard time getting all the tags right when I try to quote someone, but you have underlines, bold, font size, italics, astrixes (astrices??? sp?).
GD, what a fucking tool this guy is.
Springs1 and that husband she mentions must be a hoot at Christmas.
He: So I did not GET you ANYTHING because YOU didn’t ASK FOR anything.
She: And I didn’t get YOU anything EITHER because that would be RUDE.
He: YES it is GREAT that NEITHER of us GOT ANYTHING from the OTHER thus PROVING that WE ARE POLITE.
She: So let us GO CELEBRATE our EXTRAORDINARY social SKILLS with DINNER at Red Lobster.
He: FINE. I hear there HAS NOT been a SUICIDE on the WAIT STAFF for almost a WEEK now.
(I know it is a presumption to suggest that they are Christian and further that they have heard of the custom of exchanging presents. I only hope that my Christian friends will forgive me.)
Fuck. I never knew eating a blooming onion was so complicated.
I’m just finding it hilarious that **Springs1 **apparently joined up here at the ol’ SDMB specifically to let us all know how to behave at restaurants. I was curious to read some other posts of hers to understand where she was coming from, but all 83 (as of yet) posts of hers are right here in this thread.
But while she’s holding court … if my waiter has his thumb in my soup, can I legally shoot him?
You’re new here, so you may not know, but this thread has been moved to the BBQ Pit, where people are allowed to call names. I think there’s a list of banned words that can’t be used anymore, but basically people can call names and be mean in the Pit. They don’t have to, but they can. Just so you know.
Wow. I didn’t really read up on this thread before posting my entirely redundant rejoinder – I’ve been skimming.
I love this phenomenon though. You see an innocuous little thread. And you don’t even bother opening it because the title and what little info you get from the mouse-over just doesn’t warrant your interest and all of a sudden the friggin’ thing is up to 14 pages and you’ve discovered you’ve missed out on the most fun since Seethruart.
Now that this thread is in the Pit: you are stark raving mad, and I hope they don’t give you a computer when they toss you in a padded cell.
Off-topic, but has anybody asked Springs1 for a post of her boobs? Cuz we got dying Pit thread about When is sexism okay? that I think she could really liven back up.
So I’m not threadshitting:
2 cents??? What kind of tip is that? What did your server do, refill your drink without first asking???
Did your husband drink his Dr. Pepper refill? Hell, doesn’t matter. You obviously have never worked in a restaurant. The time it takes to fill a glass with a soft drink is practically negligible. So if he comes to ask first, or he comes with the drink and you say “no, I want a Coke instead,” it’s a difference of probably ten seconds at best. And that’s assuming that the server has nothing at all else to do for other tables while back in the kitchen. He could come and ask you what you want, you tell him, and he goes in the back and has to enter the order for one of his newer tables, and your refill is going to be delayed for much longer than just the ten second it takes to fill a soft drink glass.
I know who you remind me of now; it’s that spoiled little rich girl from Willy Wonka: “**I **want a Golden Goose NOW, daddy! I want an Oompa Loompa NOW!”
Here’s a little secret; I’ve been known to have keen psychic powers at times, able to tell things about people without ever having met them; my powers tell me that you’re an insufferable bore and that every server at every restaurant that you go to DREADS you coming in and HATES you beyond measure. And I don’t blame them.
Then again, I’m getting another impression; maybe you’re like the boy in the book* I Am The Cheese*, and you’re imagining that the day to day things that you do in the asylum are taking place in the outside world. So when you say you went to Red Lobster, that was just Fish day at the asylum cafeteria, and when you say Outback, it’s beef day, and Olive Garden is pasta day and so forth. That actually would explain a lot. If that’s the case, I apologize for calling you and idiot, since it’s really not your fault.
You’re still threadshitting.
Sorry :o I guess I’m really not all that bright 