Because generally the former is much bigger than the latter.
This thread has (morphed into) an attempt to show the hurt of needing to learn new terms and it’s completely failed.
I didn’t say “smart” nor did I compare anyone to me. It’s simply society expecting individuals to be aware of things that have been true and well-known for decades.
If this seems unfair note that it’s the same with just about anything, from table manners to expectations for civility, to business conventions: yes, society judges harshly those who ignore changes that have been true for decades.
Having said all that, if I were speaking to an elderly person and they used “colored” in a context that didn’t appear to show any malice or racism, I’d probably ignore it.
You’re trying really hard to find a problem here.
No, it’s because it ticks various psychological buttons.
Often when you ask people about the main PC things that drive them mad, they will list off complete myths. And they can be genuinely upset. It’s difficult to tell them “Yeah, those are all bullshit”.