**DoctorJ ** as one of my favorite intelligent posters, I am shocked, just *shocked * to hear that someone as level headed as you to have such busy body family. I mean, I assumed that you came from such an excellent parentage and well cultivated eugenics of free thinking card carrying members of the Liberal Party.
You are just like the rest of us…well, me. .escapees from the small minded planet of zombified family members. They are so far in the rut and soooo unable to think anymore that they just follow the rules without questioning. That is their world and so be it. I live in mine, a much happier, guilt free place.
There are several options, none of which will work and one that is sure fire. First, the crappy, but well meant, advice.
You do not need your parents approval. Really. They have the rest of their lives to get over the decisions you make. ( It took me 33 years to figure that one out.)
Moving a few states away from them is possibly the best thing you will do for yourself. This will force the powers that be to realize that you are beyond their control anymore and allow them to focus more on the spineless-needing direction and strong guidelines/rules people intheir lives which manipulate with guilt and coercision.
and now the money shot::::::: drumroll::::::::
Tell your Mom and Grand mother you are gay and that Tamara is just your fag hag. That 'll give them something new to fret over, like deeper, more eternal damnation of your soul. My profuse apologies to Tamara.
If any information in this post was coherent or useful, it is by pure coincidence.