It’s way to soon for either one of us (Rico or me) to consider adding another member to our family, but at the same time, our son Duffy is miserable. Getting him a playmate this soon seems like it would be wrong too. He needs time to grieve the death of his sister.
Although it’s painful, it seems like one of the things I can do for our son is to begin the research phase of finding his next sibling. I’ve never adopted before based on specific personalities or traits so this is foreign to me. I’ve always adopted because the kitten/cat (other species) felt “right” and needed a home.
We have no intention whatsoever to go to a breeder or cattery for our next “child” (*we ****are not ***looking for a purebred but as we comb through the shelters we want to know what types of breed mixes we should be looking for. I can’t imagine allowing someone to be put down that we could have given a good home.
Duffy is part brown tabby and part ocicat. His personality is totally ocicat so we need to find someone for him that will meet his needs. From the day I brought him home, he tried to get Shae to play with him. Here is the “official” description of an ocicat’s temperament
Ocicat
Temperament:
Not lap cats, but are still friendly and affectionate.
Active, and they love to play. Require much exercise.
Intelligent and easy to train.
Good with children, other cats, and some dogs
Things that we are thinking:
- I need a cat that can be a lap cat too. Or more specifically, I need someone who will at least sleep with me.
- Need a cat who is active and playful who will keep up with Duffy and be happy to play with him.
- We think we need to get a female so it won’t be a cat that will challenge Duffy in his role of alpha. If that is an incorrect assumption on our part, please tell me.
- We are also thinking that if we get an intelligent cat, that cat will be more likely to challenge Duffy for alpha.
- Duffy will be 2 yrs. old in July so we are thinking we need a kitten that is between 2-4 months old so they will not have started developing the concept of being alpha.
If any of our assumptions are incorrect, please straighten us out.
I’d like to hear all of your ideas and thoughts about what we are thinking.
And everyone’s experiences in adding another cat to the family, especially following the death of a “sibling” that the cat was very attached to.
Duffy is acting depressed, isolating himself, is uncharacteristically jumpy, doesn’t come running when Daddy gets home like he always has before. He will snuggle for a little while when he’ll let one of us pick him up and even give us some purrs, but the rest of his normal daily behavior is altered. He spends most of his time in the condo by himself. When we try to get him to play with his fishing pole, he walks away. He’s turned up his nose at catnip, he’s not interested in treats, doesn’t want to go in the bedroom where Shae spent the last part of her life, etc.
Oh, another question, when will we know it’s time to get him a companion? I totally messed it up when I got Duffy for Shae so I want to be better educated this time.
I looked at a list of breeds and their temperaments and here are the ones I picked out as possibilities:
[ul]
[li]Abyssinian []American Shorthair []Balinese []Burmese. []California Spangled Cat []Egyptian Mau []Maine Coon Cat[/li][li]Ocicat []Scottish Fold []Siamese []Somali []Tonkinese[/li][/ul]