I haven’t read the posts so far. I simply reply to say that, in my opinion, since “race” is itself a racist idea, if you identify a person by “race”, you are being inherently racist, by proper definition of the word. That is to say, a “racist” is someone who identifies characteristics of people through some method of classification based upon observed phenotypical attributes. Hence, if you identify a person as “black” (as we use the term in America), you aren’t just saying they have dark skin, but rather that they are part of some grouping of humans with common characteristics that include more than just dark skin and usually curly hair.
This is why I dislike identifying or talking about people using these terms. Whenever I talk about them, I always use “white” or “black” in quotes to show that I’m using the term others would use, but that I’m not in agreement that the term has valid application, or even valid meaning.
And I think that the most recent past-President of the United States, Barack Obama, exemplifies this. He isn’t the descendant of American slaves, but rather the son of a Kenyan economist who was temporarily in the US. It’s correct to refer to him as having African-American heritage, but to call him “black” and thus lump him in with all those in this country who are the descendants of our former slaves is a bit silly; he shares very little with those people. But because of his skin color and hair (among other things), he gets labeled as no different, and potentially treated no differently.
So I’m not sure how you could NOT be “racist” if you accept that “race” has any validity at all.