I’m finding myself to dislike someone more and more that I’ve known for years and that I love and care about. Could I come to completely dislike this person – while still loving them…in perpetuity? This is nonsexual, by the way.
Anyone dislike someone they love? Semantics? Contradiction in terms? Definitions? Make them up as you answer. 
Liking and loving are two completely different animals, and especially so when it comes to family members.
For example, (and without going into details) I have a child that I thoroughly dislike at the moment, but I love him dearly because he is my child, and I will protect him from harm as I am able.
Other examples can be parents who hold totally different political or social or ethical opinions to yourself. You might find yourself disliking them because they’re just nasty bigots, but you love them all the same because they’re your folks.
I’m sure everyone in a couple relationship has had times when they don’t like their partner very much at all. But for lasting r’ships, those times are fleeting and impact little on the real love side of things.
Friends? I dunno. I would venture to suggest that real ‘love’ is absent from friendhips, regardless of the intensity of the feelings felt between the friends. So when dislike rears its head, it’s easier to dispense with the problem than it is when family or lovers are involved.
I’m sure others will be along to correct my assumptions in due course! 
I think perhaps the dichotomy comes because we love the person, who they represent/their relation to us, but we don’t like their actions. At least, I’ve experienced this.
I won’t be one of them. I completly agree with you.
I don’t like my mother but I love her. We are just so different it is hard to like her as a preson but I love her because she is my mom.
There are several things I don’t like about my SO but there are more I like and love about him to cancel out the things I don’t care for.
In the case of friends I think that if the dislike becomes to often and is powerful enough then it would cause the friendship to end.
I don’t know if we really ‘love’ friends. I have two that are very dear to me but I can’t say that I love them.
Only one. 
I absolutely love my friends. Not *all * of my friends, of course. The vast majority of them fall more toward the ‘aquaintance’ side of the friendship scale. But there are a few who are family to me, whom I love far more than my siblings.
I think that friendship is easier to end, not for lack of love, but for practical purposes. If you walk away from a relationship with your mother, you’ve got people lined up to tell you that’s unacceptable. It’s simply more socially acceptable to stop talking to a friend.
And to the OP, I’m not sure you can *completely * dislike someone and still love them (because at that point, I don’t think you love the person, so much as the idea of them), but of course you can love someone and not like them all the time. I’ve never met anyone who I like all the time.
Love is something you do. It is perfectly possible to have negative feelings toward someone and still love them with your actions. It is possible to love anyone, no matter how you feel about them.
This is a tough one for me. I really do need to like someone to love them – sort of. When you factor in a sense of duty to family or fond memories, it confuses the issue a lot.
I’ve thought about this a lot lately, but I have no clear answers.
Yes, I think it is possible. I loved my father. But he was not the kind of man that I would have liked if we had not had a history. We were different enough that I often wondered if I were adopted. He was a good man in many ways, but also had traits that I very much dislike (even at the end of his days he would tell racist jokes and think he was clever.) Love and like are different things. Yes, I didn’t always like him. I still miss him now that he is gone.
Yes.
This is very common, I think…at least in my experience.
My FIL told my SIL that he loved her, but didn’t like her as a person.
I am at the point now, where I do not like my own mother (yet, I still do love her), as she has turned into a bitter, hateful and suspicious bitch, all because of her health problems, which she could have taken care of sooner, but decided to go the ‘ignore it, and it will go away’ route.
Now she’s paying for it in a big way.
So, yes.
I think it is very possible to dislike someone you love.
Yes. In my opinion, you can dislike someone and yet still love them. It is often remarked by other people that my family dynamic is “odd” because my kids “not only love you, they seem to like you, too!” The best example, of course, of disliking someone you love is that of a teenager – he/she may love their parents, but not particularly like them. Spouses may go through this too.
I have several family members that I love, but don’t especially “like,” meaning I don’t enjoy spending extended time with them. I can just about tolerate a holiday spent with them, you know? But when it comes to friends, I think if you come to truly dislike them, than all that’s left to love is the memory of who they were, or at least who you thought they were, and then it’s all too easy to let them go.
Yes, absolutely.
I think there have been some good examples given here.
I loved my husband even while we were getting a divorce. I *really *didn’t like the way he was doing things, and I was very angry. I’m still angry about certain things, but how can you not love someone who was your best friend?
Agreeing with the above, I’ll add this–
I think it’s completely possible to love a friend and not like them any more due to their actions. You may not hang out with them any more as buddies, but you can still love them, wish them well, want to help them out.
Sure, my younger brother. I would happily donate him bone marrow or a kidney, just so long as they could arrange the transplantation procedure so that we never had to be in the same hospital.
I’m in virtually an identical situation myself, the difference being that I have progressed all the way to actually disliking her. She’s smart, lively, attractive and a bit of a character (my friends are almost always characters) and we share many of the same interests. I love her and I’m fond of many of the memories that our relationship has produced, but she is just too into herself to make an enjoyable friendship possible. Her selfishness and self-centeredness and lack of concern for others has gotten worse and worse over the years, and now it’s to the point that virtually everything she says or does grates on my nerves and I just want her to leave me alone. She’s reluctant to do this because I’m about the last real friend she has, and it’s difficult to have to keep pushing her away, but I just can’t stand her anymore – and yet the love I’ve had for her remains and the whole thing just seems kind of sad.
Oh yes, it is quite possible. I spent a number of years not liking my mom. Our views on things and what I knew she thought of my life decreased my like of her tremendously.
On the other hand, I have never not loved her. Even during the lowest points of our relationship I would gladly have done anything for her.
I’m not sure I agree with that. My own experience was that as the times of “not liking” my partner’s behavior became more and more frequent, the depth of the “real love” quality of the relationship decreased as well.
Love is wanting what God wants (or wanting good) for another person. You can absolutely want that for someone and still not really like them very much.
If you mean the emotion love, that would be harder to reconcile with dislike.