Mouse needs to take tea advice and put your feet up and put some good music on. I’m glad to hear everything is A-Ok with mousling. I haven’t been able to get on here until now and I got real worried! Phew!
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I’m so glad you got to see a doctor. I, too, had spotting that scared the everloving stuffin’ outta me back before Boglette #1 was born and within about the same timeframe as yours. Same reaction of fear/panic/fear. Especially after having been told I had a 1% chance of having any to begin with, a previous loss, and I wanted them desperately. I now have two very healthy, happy Boglettes.
Your reaction was completely normal and we’re all here for you! And we’ll continue to be. It’s an amazing ride.
Once you’ve heard the heartbeat, the chances of miscarriage (that’s what you’re worried about, right?) - the risk goes way, way down. You’re one step further than that, even, because you’ve seen the little one on ultrasound, another rough check that all is okay.
I wanted to comfort you but had no idea how to do so. Now that other, wiser folk have stepped in I can safely offer you {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}. And Olives, of course. Olives Forever. 
Mouseling, stop scaring your momma. You’re not supposed to do that yet!
One of the reasons a certain woman was very sure she couldn’t be pregnant c. July of 1967 is that she’d had what she’d taken for very light and even-more-irregular-than-usual periods… she was only three months along at that point (I was born March 1968 but was late).
Please find a way to get Mouse_Spouse in your first line of defense. Can you email mail him or something so he can call you back?
Second, if he hasn’t already, he needs to learn to carefully listen and then say “Honey, I think it’s going to be OK. Let’s wait until the doctor calls back, but I think it’s going to be fine.”
The father needs to be supportive. Pregnant women worry. My purely amateur personal belief is that in addition to all the hormones, worry is hardwired in, as a way that mother nature uses to help women not do stupid things and to take care of themselves.
TokyoWife would continue to worry about various things, but once we could talk about it and I could reassure her, things would generally be better. Getting support is important.
Also, don’t worry about sharing things with him. Fathers don’t have the same hormones flowing around, so most of us don’t get as worried. Again, if he doesn’t know this, he should be learning to be the calming person.
I also believe that the father should be proactively supportive, constantly saying that the mother is doing well, and be doing as much as possible to do housework and cooking, etc., especially when the mother is working, but that’s another thread.
Good luck with everything! I know how tough it can be at times. Also, that’s great news that things are OK.
Thank you. I hope you and TokyoWife are doing well.
Mouse_Spouse has various concerns. He lost a brother to SIDS and wonders if our children will be effected. I have hypothyroidism, that complicates things a bit. Mouse_Spouse has always wanted to be a father, and has been very supportive and patient. I’m still figuring out how much information is too much. Spouse doesn’t have any sisters, so his knowledge of women’s physical issues is limited. Being raised by a single father, I have to shake the “don’t talk about female problems” line that I was given.
I’m not a female Doper, but perhaps an anecdote will help?
You see, my wife had bleeding issues during her pregnancy. It wasn’t until she began to show, in fact, that she realized she was pregnant - her bleeding was at about the right times and had enough, um, volume? that she thought she was just having a light period (well, several of them, actually).
Our son is 7 now, and is (aside from a distressing tendency to grow cavities) a perfectly healthy boy.
I can’t say bleeding is perfectly OK, but it’s not immediately the Sign of the Apocalypse, either.
It’s not female problems. It’s family problems.
Exactly. Believe me, if a woman can handle all that comes with being pregnant and giving birth, a man can handle hearing about it! It’s his baby too, and his job is to support you in everything that you will go through. Pregnancies often have a lot of ups and downs, and while it’s a great experience, it’s a difficult one, as well. Get him as involved as possible…you will both get more out of it that way.
Ditto what Tokyo said. As the hormones get flowing you’ll make Sybil look rational. Your hubby will be the one to talk you off the ledge and keep you calm. He will be the one telling you that, no, it is not necessary to build an addition on the house and yes, he will run up to Baskin Robbins at 2 AM to get you a turtle sundae with extra nuts, whipped cream and no freaking cherries! He will rub cocoa butter on your stretch marks, peppermint cream on your swollen feet and will sing lullabies through your navel.
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You two are a team and, for all his fears and worries, he will put aside his problems and focus on you.
Best of luck to the three of you.
PS. My wife was addicted to burritos when she was pregnant with my son (unfortunately Taco Bell). Nothing else would stay down. We should have named our kid Pedro.
We’re doing well, thanks. We go in tomorrow for her next exam, and we’re crossing her fingers.
I’m glad to hear that Mouse_Spouse is supportive. That should make a big difference. I’d suggest that you start sharing all about “female problems” right away. He’s got to understand them, and getting background information will help him be more comfortable when you need to share serious problem and / or are in a panic. Also, sharing things when you aren’t stressed will help you in cases like this.
There are some fathers who get worried. If he is like that, I suggest that he do some research as well as to talk to your Obgyn with you, in order for him to be more comfortable.
As erie774 says, pregnant women can [del]come completely unglued[/del] get a tad excited at times, and having someone there for you can really help.
Another bleeder piping in. I started bleeding about 8 weeks into my pregnancy. For about 2 weeks. I had a sonogram to make sure she was viable. Let me tell you, she’s 17 months old and viable is an understatement.
Kick yer feet up and relax. If you haven’t noticed, you don’t have much control over this and ya might as well have a bonbon or two along the way. It does make up for all the bladder dancing later.
Thank goodness you and mouseling are all right, M_M! I popped in yesterday for a minute, but didn’t have time to post my reassuring anecdotes and haven’t had time to surf the dope until now and have been worried about you.
Very glad all is well!
Next time I’ll tell you all about the time I thought my water had broken 3 months early but it turned out that my little one thought the bladder was a trampoline.
I’m so glad everything’s fine so far, Mousie! Keep us updated on your (and Mouseling’s) progress.
GT
Well, I am freaking myself out good and proper. I took a (positive) pregnancy test on Friday, but I’ve been having light bleeding/spotting for 5 days now. The bleeding began on Thursday and continued through the weekend, so I took another test (also positive) yesterday morning. The bleeding seems to have intensified slightly beginning last night and continuing today. I don’t have a regular OB/Gyn to contact – I’ve had all my services done through Planned Parenthood. I called them this morning to see if I could get an appointment, and they told me that all they can do is test for pregnancy; if I am pregnant, there’s nothing more they can do. They put me through to a nurse line which of course was full, so all I could do was leave my name and number. Since that’s not a conversation I am willing to have at my desk at work, I just hung up.
I really don’t know what the right next step to take is. I’ve done some reading online and of course that scared the crap out of me. It seems that spotting is normal at implantation but is abnormal if it lasts more than 1 or 2 days – especially if it intensifies. If I am understanding the facts correctly, I am already in the camp of about 30% of pregnancies, and of those, only 50% continue on to term.
I have a meeting in 15 minutes and am struggling to pull myself together.
Deep breath, Beadalin, deep breath. Remember, there isn’t a whole lot any doctor can do early in pregnancy. So, either you are having a miscarriage or you aren’t, but either way it’s out of your control. So, concentrate on what you can control, visit a doctor when appropriate, and prepare for your meeting as you would if this had never happened.
Easier said than done, I’m sure.
I know a lady who took a pregnancy test “just because” and turned up pregnant. The timing was not great, and while she was still trying to get her insurance coverage straightened out, she had a job interview scheduled far away. She had a miscarriage, at 3 or 4 weeks pregnant, and the job interview at more or less the same time. I’m not sure whether she told the interviewers about the miscarriage. She ended up getting the job, and says that actually, traveling at that time, and doing the job interview was a good thing, kept her busy thinking about other stuff rather than just dwelling on the end of her pregnancy, which she hadn’t really been prepared for.
I don’t know that this is an encouraging story. It’s ok to grieve the loss of this baby, if this does turn out to be a miscarriage. But a miscarriage is not the end of the world, either. So keep your chin up, and carry on like you would if you weren’t pregnant.
Chipotle?! Now it makes sense…I’ve been pregnant for the past three years! Explains the growing belly, too…
The internet is a wonderful thing, unless you’re expecting, IMHO. I’ve dubbed this “pregnancy hyperbole.”
Call the nurse line again when you have some privacy. If you have a regular doctor, give her/him a call as well.
As Eureka said, take a deep breath. Good luck.
Thanks. I did get through from a conference room (ah, the joys of working in a cube farm). I’ll be going in at 4:00 today for the blood hormone test, so at least I’ll know one way or the other soon. In the meantime, lots of deep breathing and a loving call from my husband. God, I love that guy.