One thing to keep in mind is that within each breed is a spectrum of personality. It does indeed sound like you’re describing a Russian Blue–one person described the one they’d had as less than ideal as a pet, yet the two my b/f had growing up were wonderful.
I’ve had Siamese all my life (until now), and each were distinct–but there are certain standard characteristics. #1, they’re talkative–to downright noisy and annoying. #2, They’re intelligent–which means great trainablity in a dog, but not a Siamese. Instead, their intellect helps them figure out how to get where they shouldn’t–and that when you’re gone, they can pretty much do whatever they want. #3, they can be rather neurotic. This actually depends on type. There are 3: traditional, classic, and modern. Traditional Siamese look like the cat in the original Incredible Journey: stocky, smaller ears, possibly kinked tail and/or crossed eyes, and a round “apple” head. Moderns are freaks–they’re quite lithe, thin-skinned, have enormous bat ears, and a long pointy nose. Classics are the “in-between.” I once read that the Siamese characteristics (described above) intensify with each type, starting at the most mild with the traditional. I’ve had a two traditionals and a classic, and lemme tell you, the classic was a neurotic, mean, moody mess (but I loved her!).
You may want to consider something that is half to a Persian or Himalayan–one that did not inherit the long fur, but did inherit the mild-to-loving-blob personality.
Some tips when looking for a kitten/cat:
[list=1][li]Do not go for the cute little playful kitten that bats, and kicks, and climbs, and bounces in their cage–unless you want a hyper kitty. It may be cute to watch–but only when it isn’t your cat! What you see at the cage/at the breeder is about 1/10th the magnification of reality! ;)[/li][li]Look for a cat you can cradle upside down–and observe how it reacts. Does it grow tense? Does is scramble? Or does it jsut relax and stretch out accordian-style? (This is what Inigo did–he’s a mellow, loving kitty!)[/li][li]Does the kitten/cat ever purr when you hold it?[/li][li]Touch/hold the cat’s tail and back of the hind feet–this is their ticklish spots, and a mild kitty (such as Inigo) will only try and get loose; a more cranky kitty (such as Lady, the classic Siamese) might turn around and try to bite you.[/list=1][/li]
Wowzers, hope that wasn’t too much reading, there! Good luck to you and your cat!
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