“Performatively?” You think that the fact that I had an old friend baptize one of my kids, and that he’s a welcome guest in my home, and that an elderly relative who’s officiated at every wedding in the family (including both of my father’s) and baptized me and just about everyone else in the family, is also welcome, and is a beloved family member, is a “performance?” You think I’m doing that to virtue-signal or something?
Get a grip.