Catholics and Anal Sex

Good grief.

A lie is a statement designed to mislead the listener or reader concerning the truth. The truth is a reasonable, factual representation of a given situation or set of events.

So when you answered a question about married priests by claiming that priests live in sin with women, and the church authorities turn a blind eye, or “both eyes” to the situation, that is a lie. It leaves the reader with the impression that the Catholic Church condones, by inaction, its priests living in sin with women.

Of course, I could be wrong – the situation could have been precisely as you describe. But if that’s the case, you’ll have no trouble documenting a few cases… right?

If technology exists to make a certain type of business’ products or pracices safer and a company chooses not to adopt that technology, it’s a sin–the sin of negligence. If your car hits a solid object at hight speed, it’s natural for you to smash through the windshield. Wouldn’t want any unnatural devices to interfere with that which was ordained by the laws of inertia.

Flowers were ordained by God to attract bees for pollination. Therefore it’s a sin to use flowers as decoration at weddings and funerals or to use them to make perfume, etc.

The problem, sqweels, is that the Roman Catholic Church takes the position that it teaches matters of faith and morals infalliably – not that you do. Now, you may argue that your interpretation is the correct one in God’s eyes, but that’s not the issue. The original question asked about the Church’s teaching. What the Church teaches is not a matter of interpretation. What the Church SHOULD teach is certainly open to debate; what she DOES teach is pretty much of a lock.

  • Rick

That seems quite reasonable.

Now for the good question: Should the Roman Catholic Church teach that?

The stance on birth control and sexuality is one of the biggest reasons why I’ve pulled away from the church. I cannot see not wanting to get pregnant as a sin. Some people cannot afford children, they don’t want them-and they KNOW they would not be good parents.

So why should they have to be celibate?

My mother is a devout Catholic-who had her tubes tied.

To me, birth control should be between the person and God.

I think sex for reproduction purposes only is a thing of the past due to the fact that we are grossly overpopulated - in fact I would go as far to say that any religion that stands in the way of controlling the population in this day and age is being reckless. Why doesn’t the church get on the ‘fudge nudging’ bandwagon? It could even have a slogan ‘one up the bum - no sin done!’

You are aware, Brick, of the paedophilia scandal of the U.S. Church in actual history. And how church authorities did not take action against erring priests.

About priests living in with women and authorities not removing them, are you really unaware of such a phenomenon happening?

The lie you accuse me of saying is actually an reaction of agreement to the the post of Kalhoun:


Kalhoun:
I thought I saw something on 60 Minutes about priests in South America and possibly Africa who are married and
actively having kids and are still Catholics. The church tends to look the other way because no one complains
about it. I’m pretty sure that’s where I saw it.

Here is my reaction:

                     Closing both eyes.

                     Authorities decided that better a priest going to hell does his ministry to the boon of Catholic faithfuls, than that
                     faithfuls be left without any pastoral care.

                     Or they send incontinent priests to other locations, hoping they will change for the better.

                     Which doesn't usually work.

                     That's how bad the scarcity of worthy priests is in the Catholic Church.

                     Susma Rio Sep

Anyway, if you want to read about priests having sex with women and not being removed by their superior authorities, use Google and look up priests, sex, women, and you will find materials to acquaint you that the phenomenon is factual.

I have found a quite adequate website on priests engaing in sex with adult women:

http://www.thelinkup.com/abuse-women/women.htm

I observe in your last paragraph above that you have softened your accusatory mood against me.


Of course, I could be wrong – the situation could have been precisely as you describe. But if that’s the case, you’ll have no trouble documenting a few cases… right?

Is it an indication that you are more aware of the reality now?

Susma Rio Sep

If you believe that “USe Google and come up with cites” is an adequate substitute for defending your position, you are mistaken.

The link you provide above does not work.

If you had claimed that priests were abusing children and the hierarchy was turned a blind eye, or “closing both eyes,” I would not have disputed it. But I am unaware of any simialr spate of cases of priests married and having kids, and the Church turning a blind eye.

That was the accusation: “…who are married and
actively having kids and are still Catholics. The church tends to look the other way…” And you agreed with it.

Now, either substantiate it, or admit to being a liar.

  • Rick

Be patient, Brick.

Have you read carefully the website I cited?

In the meantime, would you like us to be precise in exactly where the lie is:

  1. There are married priests in the Catholic Church.

  2. There are married priests in the Catholic Church married sacramentally according to the rituals and canons of the Catholic Church.

  3. There are priests married in civil ceremony before a civil official not a priest of the Catholic Church, against the discipline of the Church.

  4. There are priests married but not according to the discipline of the Catholic Church but still doing their pastoral ministry and their superiors tolerate them.

  5. There are priests not married in any kind of ceremony living in with women and their superiors tolerate them to continue in their pastoral ministry.

Woud you care to go over my words again and pinpoint exactly the words where the lie is committed and in what sense you understand the words?

You see, outside people who really know the discipline of the Church on married priests allowed to serve in the ministry and the phenomenon of priests uncanonically and thus invalidly married, however they are married in other ways and jurisdictions, and priests who are living in with women or who have relations with women, namely, outside these people, like canon law experts and of course bishops and people who actually are in contact with the phenomenon, and specially the confessors and the spiritual advisers of priests, it is very commn among non-knowledgeable peoples to use loosely the phrase, ‘married priests’.

The phrase ‘married priests’ for people not really knowledgeable means many things to them like, for examples:

  1. Priest living in with a woman.

  2. A priest living in and claiming or known to be married, but people don’t know about the intricacies of Catholic sacramental marriage.

Anyway, since you are quite keen on establishing that I told a lie in the way you understand a lie and in the way you understand my words, may I ask you whether you are really knowledgeable about canon law and moral theology as regards priestly celibacy and chastity, and the situation in the fields with priests working in parishes urban and countryside. or in schools, in hospitals, in convents of sisters and nuns, in the military barracks, etc.

Are you are canon lawyer consulted by bishops on how to deal with erring priests?

Are you maybe a bishop heading a diocese where you have priests working under you, like a police chief with all kinds of policemen working under him?

If you are a Catholic priest, did you sltudy in Rome and are you or have you been working in various ministries where you are in touch with the intimate and personal problems of priests, and of parishioners who bring to you news about their dissatisfactions with their priests.

If you are a priest, have you never heard the confessions of brother priests coming to you with sins of living in with women, and women even sisters coming to you to confess their sins with priests?

But be patient. Let us first exacly point out the precise lie which you insist I have committed.

Yes, in the meantime I will look up some materials connected with the issue.

Are you trained as a lawyer or even a Catholic Canon Law licentiatiatus or dotoratus and you practice canon law solving cases of priests’ suspension or excardination, or laicalizaiton, or dispensation from celibacy; then you should be patient and examine the exact basis where the lie is committed.

Susma Rio Sep

I am a lawyer. I have a licentiate in canon law from Catholic University. Although I have not made a career of the practice of canon law, I have represented people before marriage tribunal in my own and neighboring sees.

These two situations are the ones I’m asking you to document.

  • Rick

Hey Bricker–

Side question. I’m getting my Juris Doctor in just under two weeks. Would this be a step in getting a Canon Law licentiate someday, or do I need to go back to college and get a theology degree first?

The only thing I can possibly think of in Susama’s defense are: 1) there’s Orthodox Catholic priests in America who are married. That’s licit under the Eastern rules. And 2) IIRC, married Episcopal priests who convert to Catholicism retain their marriages when they convert to the Catholic priesthood.

This, I really gotta take issue with:

I mean, Jiminy Christmas. A priest can NEVER reveal the sins of a confessee. The most I’ve ever heard from my priest friends is “I’ve heard all kinds of things.” Assuming Bricker were a priest, that kind of question would come dangerously close to asking him to commit a really, really, really grievous wrong.

At Catholic, graduates in law, theology, and religious studies were eligible for the licentiate program in canon law – and, if you want to set your sights higher, completing that program cum laude or better left you eligible for a doctorate in canon law. I imagine that as a general proposition, you’d be accepted almost anywhere with a J.D.

Of course - but then the Church wouldn’t be “closing both eyes” to the situation; the marriages would be recognized. In fact, it’s possible to have Roman Rite priests that are married – the existence of a marriage is an impediment to presbyterial Orders, but the waiver of that impediment is reserved to the Holy See. (Can. 1047 § 2). It’s at least LEGAL for the Church to approve such a marriage, although highly unusual.

If I were a priest, I’d have shown much more compassion and much less anger at Susma. We are all called to Christ-like compasison, of course; I often fail to reach that state, especially when confronted with obstinate ignorance or wilful misrepresentation. I can live with his/her snide explanations of how it is to be a “postgraduate Catholic,” even though there’s a certain measure of offensiveness to it – the implication that practicing Catholics in union with the Holy See are somewhere lower in the academic spectrum than the enlightened “postgraduate”.

But when a poster moves from that to outright lies - the statement that the Church closes both eyes to married priests - I get irked.

In any event, you’re quite right. Were I a priest, I would never discuss the specifics or the generalities of confessions I had heard. Can. 983 §1 provides that the sacramental seal is absolutely inviolable.

  • Rick

Dear Brick:
About your keen desire to condemn me as a liar, let us go through the post of Kalhoun and my reply, again:


(Originally posted by Kalhoun)

I thought I saw something on 60 Minutes about priests in South America and possibly Africa who are married and actively having kids and are still Catholics. The church tends to look the other way because no one complains about it. I’m pretty sure that’s where I saw it.
(Reply post of Susma)

Closing both eyes.

Authorities decided that better a priest going to hell does his ministry to the boon of Catholic faithfuls, than that faithfuls be left without any pastoral care.

Or they send incontinent priests to other locations, hoping they will change for the better.

Which doesn’t usually work.

That’s how bad the scarcity of worthy priests is in the Catholic Church.

Susma Rio Sep

Assuming that you are a full-fledged lawyer in civil law, or even just adept in canon law for Catholic church marriage nullity work, see if you can still insist that I was saying a lie there, if you really know more carefully exactly what a lie is in law, in ethics, and in moral theology?

Your definition of a lie:

“A lie is a statement designed to mislead the listener or reader concerning the truth. The truth is a reasonable, factual representation of a given situation or set of events.”

You forget the truth as in the mind of the speaker.

Look up lie in law, ethics, and in moral theology, and you will find that a lie can obtain even if it is the truth being told by the speaker; contrariwise, an untruth is not a lie even if told by the speaker (thinking that he is telling the truth). One of the reasons why a polygraph is not reliable for genuinely detecting whether a person is lying or not.

Please answer my questions later placed here in this post. In the meantime, think about this: the trouble of priests living in with women is as old as the Catholic Church. What incidents do you want me to cite in her long history? I cannot imagine a licentiatus in iure canonico not knowing this trouble of the Catholic Church from the very beginning of the celibacy discipline to the present.

Would these excerpts be convincing to you about the phenomenon of priests fornicating with women and authorities not removing them?

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http://www.natcath.com/NCR_Online/archives/031601/031601a.htm

Reports of abuse
AIDS exacerbates sexual exploitation of nuns, reports allege

By JOHN L. ALLEN JR. and PAMELA SCHAEFFER
NCR Staff, Rome and Kansas City, Mo.

Several reports written by senior members of women’s religious orders and by an American priest assert that sexual abuse of nuns by priests, including rape, is a serious problem, especially in Africa and other parts of the developing world.

The reports allege that some Catholic clergy exploit their financial and spiritual authority to gain sexual favors from religious women, many of whom, in developing countries, are culturally conditioned to be subservient to men. The reports obtained by NCR – some recent, some in circulation at least seven years – say priests at times demand sex in exchange for favors, such as permission or certification to work in a given diocese. The reports, five in all, indicate that in Africa particularly, a continent ravaged by HIV and AIDS, young nuns are sometimes seen as safe targets of sexual activity. In a few extreme instances, according to the documentation, priests have impregnated nuns and then encouraged them to have abortions.

In some cases, according to one of the reports, nuns, through naiveté or social conditioning to obey authority figures, may readily comply with sexual demands.

Although the problem has not been aired in public, the reports have been discussed in councils of religious women and men and in the Vatican.

(…)

Harassment common

In McDonald’s report, she states that “sexual harassment and even rape of sisters by priests and bishops is allegedly common,” and that “sometimes when a sister becomes pregnant, the priest insists that she have an abortion.” She said her report referred mainly to Africa and to African sisters, priests and bishops – not because the problem is exclusively an African one, but because the group preparing the report drew “mainly on their own experience in Africa and the knowledge they have obtained from the members of their own congregations or from other congregations – especially diocesan congregations in Africa.”

“We know that the problem exists elsewhere too,” she wrote.

“It is precisely because of our love for the church and for Africa that we feel so distressed about the problem,” McDonald wrote.

McDonald’s was the report presented in 1998 to the Council of 16. She declined to be interviewed by NCR.

When a sister becomes pregnant, McDonald wrote, she is usually punished by dismissal from the congregation, while the priest is “often only moved to another parish – or sent for studies.”

In her report, McDonald wrote that priests sometimes exploit the financial dependency of young sisters or take advantage of spiritual direction and the sacrament of reconciliation to extort sexual favors.

McDonald cites eight factors she believes give rise to the problem:

* The fact that celibacy and/or chastity are not values in some countries.
* The inferior position of women in society and the church. In some circumstances “a sister … has been educated to regard herself as an inferior, to be subservient and to obey.”

“It is understandable then, that a sister finds it impossible to refuse a cleric who asks for sexual favours. These men are seen as ‘authority figures’ who must be obeyed.”

“Moreover, they are usually more highly educated and they have received a much more advanced theological formation than the sisters. They may use false theological arguments to justify their requests and behaviour. The sisters are easily impressed by these arguments. One of these goes as follows:

“ ‘We are both consecrated celibates. That means that we have promised not to marry. However, we can have sex together without breaking our vows.’ ”

* The AIDS pandemic, which means sisters are more likely to be seen as “safe.”
* Financial dependence created by low stipends for sisters laboring in their home countries or inadequate support for sisters sent abroad for studies. The problem of sexual abuse in Africa is most common, according to many observers, among members of diocesan religious congregations with little money and no network of international support.
* A poor understanding of consecrated life, both by the sisters and also by bishops, priests, and lay people.
* Recruitment of candidates by congregations that lack adequate knowledge of the culture.
* Sisters sent abroad to Rome and other countries for studies are often “too young and/or immature,” lack language skills, preparation and other kinds of support, and “frequently turn to seminarians and priests for help,” creating the potential for exploitation.

“I do not wish to imply that only priests and bishops are to blame and that the sisters are simply their victims,” McDonald wrote. “No, sisters can sometimes be only too willing and can also be naïve.”

* Silence. “Perhaps another contributing factor is the ‘conspiracy of silence’ surrounding this issue,” McDonald wrote. “Only if we can look at it honestly will we be able to find solutions.”

The American priest who gave a similar account of sexual abuse of women religious is Fr. Robert J. Vitillo, then of Caritas and now executive director of the U.S. bishops’ Campaign for Human Development. In March 1994, a month after O’Donohue wrote her report, Vitillo spoke about the problem to a theological study group at Boston College. Vitillo has extensive knowledge of Africa based on regular visits for his work. His talk, which focused on several moral and ethical issues related to AIDS, was titled, “Theological Challenges Posed by the Global Pandemic of HIV/AIDS.”
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Church officials have not always, however, been open to such exchanges. McDonald wrote in her 1998 report that in March of that year she had spoken to the standing committee of the Symposium of Episcopal Conferences of Africa and Madagascar, the consortium of African bishops’ conferences, on the problem of sexual abuse of sisters.

“Since most of what I gave was based on reports coming from diocesan congregations and Conferences of Major Superiors in Africa, I felt very convinced of the authenticity of what I was saying,” McDonald wrote.

Yet, “the bishops present felt that it was disloyal of the sisters to have sent such reports outside their dioceses,” McDonald wrote. “They said that the sisters in question should go to their diocesan bishop with these problems.”

“Of course,” she wrote, “this would be the ideal. However, the sisters claim that they have done so time and time again. Sometimes they are not well received. In some instances they are blamed for what has happened. Even when they are listened to sympathetically, nothing much seems to be done.”

(…)

The information on abuse of nuns by priests “comes from missionaries (men and women); from priests, doctors and other members of our loyal ecclesial family,” she wrote. “I have been assured that case records exist for several of the incidents” described in the report, she said, “and that the information is not just based on hearsay.”

The 23 countries listed in her report are: Botswana, Burundi, Brazil, Colombia, Ghana, India, Ireland, Italy, Kenya, Lesotho, Malawi, Nigeria, Papua New Guinea, Philippines, South Africa, Sierra Leone, Tanzania, Tonga, Uganda, United States, Zambia, Zaire, Zimbabwe.

Her hope, she wrote, is that the report “will consequently motivate appropriate action especially on the part of those in positions of church leadership and those responsible for formation.”

John Allen’s e-mail address is jallen@natcath.org. Pamela Schaeffer’s e-mail address is pschaeffer@natcath.org

Documents related to the above story will be available on the NCR Web site at www.natcath.com/NCR_Online/documents/index.htm

National Catholic Reporter, March 16, 2001

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Are you a civil lawyer with a civil law degree and you passed the government bar examination; so that you are a member of a state bar, and even authorized to practice in the whole U.S.?

Or are you holding a purely Catholic Church degree making you a licentiatus in iure canonico, and allowed by some bishops to practice, as an advocate in Catholic Church annulment petitions.

Or are you both a civil lawyer with a government recognized degree and membership in a bar, and at the same time a canon lawyer with a purely Catholic Church degree making you a licentiatus in iure canonico?

Do you practice only as an advocate helping a petitioner obtain Catholic annulment of marriage – properly a declaration of nullity of marriage; or do you also represent priests who are being tried for living in with women, the punishment of which is suspension from the ministry?

Tell me which canon of the Present Code of Canon Law prescribes the punishment of priests living in with women.

Tell me, if the bishop should come to know of a priest living in with a woman, can he exercise the discretion to initiate immediately the formal and solemn process to establish the guilt of the priest and to inflict upon the priest the corresponding penalty; or can he choose for reasons justifiable to his conscience to let the priest continue in his ministry?

Do you know that the process is not possibly as simple as a petitio declarationis nullitatis matrimonii?

How much discretionary power can a bishop exercise in this respect?

Do you know of the “Decretum Gratiani”?

Would you like to look up in this work, the part entitled: “De Clericis Incontinentibus”? (I am not so precise about the name of the part, I will let you know as soon as I get my hands on a copy.)

Please answer the above questions, it might enable me to understand your ignorance of the phenomenon in question.
Susma Rio Sep

Dear ResIpsa:

To break the seal of the confessional is to reveal the sin and the sinner.

Priests should talk in their meetings to discuss sins in the community, which they hear in the confessional – but without menitoning who did what – in order to learn from each other and to inform their superiors all the way to Rome, so that the superiors would know what’s going on in the Church, and make the appropriate policies and disciplines, going through a lot of their theogical reasonings.

Susma Rio Sep

Susma -

Your original allegation had to do with married priests, whose bishops turned a blind eye. Did you have any cites on that?

This very long paste is not very relevant.

If you do have a cite, you may want to consider copyright issues before you post so much of a copyrighted article.

Regards,
Shodan

I would like to invite you to read the posts I have put up on this matter.

In one post I put in the meanings of “married priests” for people not knowledgeble and people knowledgeable.

You see, when people who are not knowledgeable about the teachings of the Catholic Church on sacramental marriage, they use “married priests” as in the meaning of lawfully wedded – without clarification on exactly how and where and before whom married.

I thought we are all aware that I am talking about Catholic priests married but not in accordance with the Catholic discipline of sacramental marriage binding upon Catholics, and also priests living in, without any wedding whatsoever, not even any outside the Catholic Church, namely, fornicating priests.

Of course I know and all knowledgeable Catholics know that there are married priests allowed in the Catholic Church by the Vatican who were married before they got ordained, allowed to practice the ministry. For this kind of married priests certainly their bishops need not turn a blind eye to.

Susma Rio Sep

I am a member of the bar of the Commonwealth of Virginia. This entitles me to practice civil and criminal law in Virginia’s state courts as well as federal court. Although I no longer practice law, I spent several years as a public defender, a lawyer assigned to represent indigent defendents.

As I mentioned earlier, although it’s not a career, I have represented people before the diocesan tribunal for marriage issue.

Yes.

I have never represented anyone facing penal sanctions under canon law.

Can. 1395 §1 provides in relevant part that a cleric living in concubinage, or a cleric who continues in some other external sin against the sixth commandment which causes scandal, is to be punished with suspension. To this, other penalties can progressively be added if after a warning he persists in the offence, until eventually he can be dismissed from the clerical state. Note that the punishment of suspension is mandatory, and does not permit discretion on the part of the Ordinary. In addtion, such a cleric loses any ecclesiastical office, again automatically by operation of law (Can. 194 § 1).

No.

If it provides support for your proposition that church authorities are closing both eyes to their invalidly married priests and permitting that state of affairs to continue, then I’d be happy to read it.

That’s three or four sets of questions I’ve answered from you, Susma. When are you going to answer my question about your claim?

  • Rick

Yes, I am aware of that.

Do you have any cites? I want evidence that this really has happened, and/or is common.

Regards,
Shodan

OK, I haven’t seen this word used lately in this thread, but just to be pedantically clear: celibacy has nothing to do with sex, anal or otherwise. Technically, the Vow of Celibacy is the vow to never marry.
http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/03481a.htm

The vow to stop doing It is the Vow of Chastity.
http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/03637d.htm

FYI.

BTW, I’m amused by the “you’re not a Catholic so how can you know?” insinuations - since when has faith (or lack thereof) in Catholicism been proof of expertise in Catholicism’s teachings (or lack thereof)?

A quick search reveals that I should have remembered this – it was the The Law Book of Gratian, the document that formed the basis for medieval church canon law.

I’m at a loss to discren its relevance to this discussion, however.

  • Rick