My great-great-grandfather was a private in the 51st Alabama Cavalry. He enlisted in the war when he was 29, a married smalltime farmer with 5 kids, and saw active duty at Manassas, Chickamauga, Chattanooga, Atlanta and other campaigns. He survived the Battle of Shelbyville at which half of his unit (including one of his brothers) was killed, and for a two month period in 1864 he literally saw battle every single day. At the end of the war he returned home, resumed farming, had several more kids and lived a quiet and productive life as a farmer and family man.
While he saw more action in the war, I have other relatives who did the same thing: joined up, saw bloody combat, came home, got on with life. There’s nothing special about this as millions of other men from Florida to Maine and from Charleston to San Francisco did the same thing.
By all accounts the Civil War was one horrifying conflict, causing more deaths from battle and disease than any other war in our history and most of it in very close quarters with very little food and medical supplies. Guts and blood were the same color then as now and cannonballs were just as loud. Yet you rarely read about men who went home, farmed for a few years, then ten years later climbed into a belltower and started shooting people or killing their families or similarly going mad due to post traumatic stress.
Are there any theories as to how they were so successfully able to get on with their lives? Or is their literature that there was a lot of latter day emotional problems associated with the war? (The best thing I can think of for the former is that they had massive support groups [though they wouldn’t have known the term of course] due to the huge number of veterans around for the next 60 years.)