I have the feeling you and my husband will be a lot alike. 
I’ll have a doula (who is also a massage therapist–SCORE!!) to help me with the birth and help translate what is going on while keeping my husband and I from panic and anxiety. My husbands job will be to entertain me.
I have a hard time with people stressing me out and telling me what to do…I think having someone coaching me through something without my request will go over like a fart in church.