Given my history with college I know that it’s unfair for me to say so (I failed out 10 years ago), but with the fullness of time I’ve gained some perspective.
There was this one kid this morning in my history class who was sighing, muttering to his friends, and generally denigrating one of the other students because she had the temerity to a) participate, b) ask questions, and c) contribute something useful to the class.
What I wanted to do was pull him aside and explain a few things to him. First of all, he’s paying for the class, so what sense does it make to sit there with his thumb up his butt and chide others for trying to get their money’s worth? He should be participating as well. This isn’t high school, it’s not a popularity contest.
Speaking of popularity contests, why do people think that school is one? That brings me to my second point, which is that he shouldn’t care whether someone wants to participate, even if he doesn’t. The class is 50 minutes long, 3 times a week no matter what. The time goes by at the same rate whether we listen to a long-winded boring lecture or we have an absolutely roaring discussion.
Third, and most important (at least to me), is that if the guy doesn’t want to be there he can quit and go to work, whereupon he can find out how much it sucks to try to find a good job without a diploma. There’s always the possibility of lucking into a good job, but it’s statistically very rare. He can live my last 10 years for himself and find out how lucky he really is to only have to “work” a few hours a day. As it is I will have at least two days a week where I can get no more than 3 hours of sleep, non-consecutive, because while I am going to school I will be pulling 12 hour guard shifts at the base. That’s not a complaint, that’s just a fact, and an obligation that I took on willingly. This guy thinks he’s being overworked? I think he needs to learn a life lesson.
In fact, I think that most people should work for a living for at least two years before they go to college so they can appreciate what a luxury it is to be able to go to school. It’ll add character and focus, making for a better learning environment. God knows that the suffering I’ve endured for the last few years has given me that all-essential perspective.
In conclusion, again, I don’t know that I have the right to say this, but I really think that somebody has to, so I guess I’ll take the heat. Kids need perspective, if only to realize that what they have going for them is better than most people could ever imagine.
The real shame is that it took me so long to realize that.