I had a date last weekend with a lady that I met through match.com.
Her name was Chris.
I just now got an e-mail from another lady that I finally jumped through all the eharmony hoops with.
Her e-mail is “persephone@[provider omitted]”
:: sigh ::
Ew.
Or, maybe these are good omens. My first hubbie, the Violent Drunk[sup]TM[/sup], has a birthday of 7-7-58.
My new hubbie has a birthday of 9-9-58.
I know its hard, but try to give a chuckle at the great irony of the universe. I’m rooting for ya. 
There was a great thread a year or so ago about amazing coincidences. If you can track it down it might at least give you a chuckle at how crazy life can be. (Although, I confess my first reaction is shock and wariness as well.) Maybe the Chris date or the “persephone” date will end up being your next true love, and you can start another amazing coincidence thread! Good luck!
Hmm…I found several. (One was as recent as last month…how did I miss that?)
Euty, wow! That is really wierd!
Good luck, anyway.
All of your post, including the sigh : isn’t this an indication from fate that you should take your time?
I don’t get it. 
We all should take our time, but only we can decide what is the appropriate pace and time for us, individually.
Ross: our dear Euty recently suffered a tragic loss of a girlfriend whose doper name was Persephone. Pretty interesting coincidence, but I don’t necessarily think it’s a message from the “fates” or anything. Only Euty can decide.
Oh, no… that’s awful. Sorry, I had no idea.
Speaking of husbands (see previous post), my second hubby’s name was Ross.
:eek:
Hey Euty -
I’m glad to see you’re doing OK. I emailed you a week or so ago, just to see how you’re holding up, and haven’t heard back from you. Started to get worried.
If I were you, I’d regard those strange coincidences as just that - very strange coincidences. I certainly would not regard them as a sign from God, or anything like that.
The last time I got involved in a relationship because I took certain coincidences as being “Signs from God”, I SEVERLY regretted it a few months later.
I did a search on “Persephone” once, and came up with ALL kinds of stuff. There’s a lot of ladies out there using that name. Is it popular with the Wicca thing? I don’t know anything about that stuff, and personally wanted to (and still do) keep a distance from it. No offense to those here that are into it. It’s just me - that’s all.
Cristi’s cell phone is no longer in sevice. If you want to talk to me, drop me an email, and I’ll give you my new #. Weird as it may seem, I’ll be willing to talk, if you want someone to talk to.
To use the old bluesman terminology, maybe the best thing for both of us to do is to “Let these evil wimmen be”. Well, for a while anyway.
I thought I was doing pretty well the last few weeks. Until several days ago anyway. It marked the one month point of her passing, and also it was my B-day too (on the 7th). Suddenly, I was back in a black mood again. Not really depressed. More like anger - just angry about everything, and very grouchy with everyone. Today, I feel like I’m pulling out of that. I’m going to take the kids out and have some fun this week, since there’s no school. They’re still doing really good.
Prayers and best wishes to you my friend! We’ll both emerge from this OK. We’ll probably never be the same, but we’ll be OK.
God bless!
Tim
Wow, am I being ignored??? Was it something I said??? No one is responding to me ANYWHERE (emails and elsewhere)! I showered and everything, so I don’t smell funny. What gives?
Trag,
I read your post, as I’m sure many others did. It appears to be addressed to Euty personally, so that might explain why nobody responded. I can’t answer for him, naturally.
Persephone was well-loved, and her absence is felt around here. Even though I was mostly a lurker at this board for many years, I miss her. You and your children are in my thoughts.
trag-o-caster, I was just commenting to someone that I thought your offer to Euty was incredibly generous and mature. I’m glad to hear that you’re dealing with your feelings so well – best of luck to you and the kids.
Sometimes I question how well I’m actually doing. I seem to be over the grouchy stage, but now I’m having moments of depression. Not ongoing, but just here and there. I can’t even imagine what Euty must be going through! Well, I reckon he could say the same about me.
Here’s an oddity that probably deserves it’s own seperate post - Cristi met MY girlfriend the day that she got home from the hospital from her surgery. My ladyfriend, Sharon, came through the door at the same time that Cristi was on the phone to Euty!!! How bizarre is that! I shouted out loud, so that Euty could hear it “We’ll all get together and do lunch”. It was actually very pleasant. Sharon had been over the night before, helping me clean up the place before Cristi got home. Cristi said “It’s so nice to finally meet you”, and thanked her profusely for helping out.
Unfortunately, Sharon and I were having our own problems, and Cristi was SO sympathetic towards me in those last days. It was very evident that there was still much genuine love and caring between us. The romance was over - that’s all.
I thank God everyday that our last weeks together were very pleasant, and probably happier than we’d been together in YEARS.
Are Chris and Persephone names of ex g/f’s or something?
Jarrod
OK, a little background. Cristi was known here as Persephone. She was my wife of 8 years. We were technically seperated, but continued living together for the sake of the kids. She worked during the day, while I readied them for school, picked them up, etc… I think everyone here knows that we were on our way to divorce. She had a romantic relationship with Euty that I actually was aware of MUCH longer than she (or he) realised. As of last summer, I myself got involved in a relationship. So, there we were - two people married to each other, but both involved with other people - and no longer involved with each other, but still living together.
Weird eh?
trag-o-caster – when I said it sounded like you were doing well in handling your feelings, I didn’t mean that everything was sweetness and light, but rather that it sounds like you’re dealing with the feelings of sadness, pain, anger, etc., as they come up, rather than ignoring them or trying to scoot past them too fast. It’s going to be a difficult adjustment for a while, but you just have to get through it as best you can, and it sounds like you’re making that effort.
Again, best of luck to you and the kids.
trag-o-caster - yes, it’s going to be difficult. Last January my wife of twenty years died after an extended illness; she spent her last two months in a hospital bed in our living room barely aware of her surroundings. (There are several threads in BBG and MPSIMS over the last year and a half about her situation, but right now I don’t have time to search & post links.) I still have bad spells, when something reminds me of her and I get depressed; last Saturday when I got home from work I had one and spent about ten minutes lying in bed crying. But they’re getting less and less frequent. Life goes on, and with the help of friends and family it gets easier.
Hiya trag - I figured you were talking directly to Euty as well, but I just wanted to tell the both of you that I think about you now and then, and hope that time will heal your hearts.