Around 7th grade was when the teasing really started for me. I mean all day torture sessions. It doesn’t help that shortly before this age my dad died, my brothers were diagnosed with a terrible disease and my grandparents were starting their slow slope towards the grave and my mother was taking care of them and working full time and there was no attention left for me at home. School should have been a safe haven for me. A place to grow, but …)
It started when a new boy came into our school and constantly teased me every class about my name. I mean, every fucking class. During quiet times and tests and everything. Passing in the hall way. In gym. At lunch. Sometimes on the way home. sometimes at church on weekends if we passed. It was like some retarded stalker was after me.
Can you imagine being called Joan Please Dei pronounced Die 50 times a day?
Looking back on it with the 20/20 vision of an adult, harassing me about my name like he did really was some OCD. I was a default in his brain for YEARS, which, in away, is flattering, yet creepy.
And naturally, kids being lemmings, just copied him. He was very popular and I could not understand why exactly someone like him who was such a spaz and a dork and asshole could actually have friends and even a following.
While a quiet shy girl who became very quick with one liners was el solo lobo.
It did not help that my mom would try to console me by saying, " He probably likes you." and I did try to be a friend to him and for one day in all those years we had an interesting conversational truce, but he was the quisesstial jerkoff from grade 7-12.
I would have to say that single handedly this guy alone helped me develop my sense of humor. When a teacher asked me what the F stood for for my middle name I said, " Fuck off. Joan Fuckoff and Dei" Did I mention I went to a catholic school, and no, I didn’t get in trouble, as the teacher knew how bad teasing would be and let it slide. YAY me!
I should send him a thank you note.